Paternity Questions … Help!

[Lex1019]

Hey so I had unprotected sex with my ex and current boyfriend a day apart… hey I’ve made my mistakes. Please no negativity.  My LMP was June 12th and I usually have a 26 day cycle. Flo app says my fertile window was June 21st-25th with Ovulation being the 23rd.  I was with my ex June 17th - 22nd pull out method besides on the 22nd where he didn’t pull out. The 23rd I decided to get back with my current BF and we had drunk sex and he didn’t pull out.  They are both aware they could both be the dads .. I have a doctors appointment in two days.
I am aware I have to get a DNA paternity test but can anyone else give any insight as to if the father ended up being the first guy or the second?
Thank you.

[Macki333]

Any updates?

[Lex1019]

I had a miscarriage at about 9 weeks so I never figured it out!

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriage. Though a lot of pregnancies end in early miscarriage (the number is something like 2 out of 5), it's always sad for the mom.

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, no, there is no other way to tell when the unprotected sex is only 2 days apart and close enough to when you would be expected to ovulate that both guys' sperm would be alive and viable in your body at that time. You can get a DNA test either before or after the baby is born, with doing it before being a lot more costly but obviously you would know much sooner. Can the two guys and you split the cost of a prenatal DNA test? Each of them would do a cheek swab and you would get a blood draw (from your arm). Otherwise the three of you should test after the baby is born.

[Lex1019]

Does it cost extra to send in samples of both fathers opposed to just one of them?

[AnnieBrooke]

You'd be charged for processing two men's DNA instead of one man's DNA, and comparing both to the baby's DNA. I haven't checked this with Ravgen or the DDC, but it stands to reason that it would be more costly to do this for two men than just with one man.

The reason for testing with both men is that (especially with prenatal testing), surprisingly often, women are too nervous to believe the results of the test. Testing with both men, one gets a yes and the other gets a no, and each guy's test tends to confirm the other one's.

[Lex1019]

Yeah I’m going to call DDC and ask a couple of questions. One doesn’t want to have a test done so I might be stuck with just one guy which is fine if one is excluded then the other is the father. Thank you for responding!! :)

[AnnieBrooke]

Write back when you learn what you need to know from the DDC. Good luck!