pls dont judge- I'm tryig to figure out DNA/Paternity

[sweetrose9999]

Sex Man 1 - july 18

sex Man 2- aug 18

1st ultrasound - 9/13- 5w5d edd based on ultra sound may 11
2nd ultrasound- 9/26-7w1d edd based on uktrasoudn may 14

gave birth may 08 (normal delivery) - based on ultrasound and based on the result of the newborn screen test result of the baby the GA is 38w / 39w

is there anyway that the baby was conceived july 28? because sperm can libe up to 10 days to the womans body? it can be the july 18 would be the father? or there is no way that july could be the father? thanks

[AnnieBrooke]

Well,  "there is nothing to worry about" depends on if it is the July guy or the August guy you are worried about, which you haven't mentioned. If you are worried about the guy in July, don't be. He was at least a month too early to have produced a baby born on May 8, possibly even a month plus a week or two too early if the doctor's count of your baby's development at birth was 100% accurate. But your early ultrasounds make it clear you did not conceive from the sex on July 18. They would have given you counts that were four weeks different than they were.

[sweetrose9999]

thanks annie i really want the guy in august ..

[AnnieBrooke]

There is nothing wrong with doing a DNA test, especially if the guy has any questions, but the guy in August is clearly the dad by your dates and your medical evidence.

[sweetrose9999]

do we really need to? or not? no he has no questions its only me who is worrying.. sometimes i got anxieties because of it ..

[sweetrose9999]

because the baby looks like me

[AnnieBrooke]

I guess you would only 'need' to for your own anxieties. But I will also mention that when someone refuses to believe all the medical evidence (and two early ultrasounds are really good evidence) and still gets anxious, she will usually choose her anxiety over the results of a DNA test also. (She will be relieved for about one day, and then begin to say things like "What if the test was ... WRONG!?!?!?!") If you are continuing to take counsel of your fears, you are probably worried about something else and not really the paternity of the baby. You might talk to a counselor about the anxiety and try to find its real cause. If you work on that, your fears about paternity will leave you.

[sweetrose9999]

maybe im just thiking too much because based on your answers before you are pretty sure about when i conceived

[AnnieBrooke]

Everything you have said here from your ultrasound evidence points to conception around August 18-22, and this time slot is also supported by your baby's birth measurements. Nothing in your medical information suggests conception on July 28.  Even if it did (which it doesn't), sperm does not last 10 days in a woman's body.

The medical count of weeks in a woman's pregnancy time period begins on the first day of her last period, not at conception. The first two weeks of a woman's pregnancy time period are the weeks between the period and conception, when the woman technically is not even pregnant yet. But doctors begin the count with the first day of the last period even so, because it is an obvious signal. They are not saying you got pregnant then, you were having a period! They just use it to start the count.

(If a woman doesn't know the first day of her last period, the ultrasound computer will measure the embryo and assign one, to start the count. It gets this from the information in its database about embryo size at a given number of weeks.)

All counts of "weeks pregnant" given by a medical person include this two weeks margin at the front end.  You ask about July 28 as if it means something, but it doesn't. Your ultrasounds say you conceived in mid-August and so does your baby's size at birth.

[sweetrose9999]

so it means there is nothing to worry about because it is surely the august guy is the father?

[sweetrose9999]

@anniebrooke

[sweetrose9999]

also cant remember my lmp