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Questioning paternity ! Can someone help .

Ok ladies I am 33 weeks pregnant . Based on ultrasound taken in the first trimester my estimated due date is October 8 th 2015. Based on all conception date calculators I would have conceived between January 8 - January 15 2015.  Ok . Was with ex boyfriend before December 11th. Can't really remember exact date. But it was before December 11th then I never saw him again. I am now with the love of my life ! We had sex for the first time after December 23rd. Im about 99% sure that this baby belongs to my current fiancé now, but this small voice in my head wants to keep me confused ;-(, and doubting. Can anyone help me to have my peace of mind ? I've stressed about this my whole entire pregnancy. My ultrasound pics of my baby girl does show features like my fiancé now also !  I just want to breathe.
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Based on your due date and your time of conception  sounds  like it's the person you are with now  stop stressing yourself out   If it was your ex you would be farther along  once you see you little  baby girl hopefully you mind will be put at ease try to enjoy your rest of your pregnancy  good luck
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Thanks so much, it's so difficult being in situation such as this . I never before thought this could even happen to me. Based on dates everything does fit to say the baby is for my fiancé, but doubt is terrible and it can eat you alive. I will do my very best to relax for the next few weeks. I deserve it .
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Being due early Oct. there's no way it's your ex's, it's definitely your fiance's. Don't answer if this is too personal - but didn't you get a period in late Dec/ early Jan?? That should have ruled out you being pregnant by you ex.
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I in fact got a very light period, therefore may mind wants to say it was implantation bleeding. I keep doubting the facts, but I'm ready for a peace of mind now.
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I appreciate the help . I'm beginning to relax now!
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I wouldn't trust features on an ultrasound because it's too subjective but I would trust my last period/estimated date of conception.
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Hi, congrats! I'm actually due right after you on October 16th and I'm in almost the exact same situation. I know it's impossible to not think about but I talked to my doctor about implantation bleeding and she said I would for sure know the difference between that and what my normal periods are, and that I would be much further along if I got pregnant in December, that margin of error is too wide. I still have that little voice too and I'm sure it won't go away until the baby comes, let's just try to keep a peace of mind and hope for the best, good luck :)
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I know how you feel can anyone easy my mind...? I had a trans vaginal ultrasound on August 5 2015 said I was 11 weeks 6 days and estimated my last period around May 14 2015 and conception around May 28 2015. I thought I was only 9 -10 weeks because my last period I thought was June 6 2015. It was light but for me that is normal.  By their estimate this would have been implantation bleeding.  I was with my ex until June 5 2015 and had a one night stand with someone on June 11 2015 after we had broke up, but he never could get erect not sure if he prematurely ejaculated or just has erectile dysfunction he still tried to penetrate with no luck he is in his 50's. So could the trans vaginal be off by 2 weeks more then the two weeks they add from your last period.  
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There is no shame in having a DNA swab done. In my opinion having a uncomfortable talk about why you want DNA done is better than spending your life wondering if the child is your fiance's or your exes and looking for qualities the child has to try and convince yourself. Just my opinion.
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Yeah if you do a DNA test after birth, they're really chepa. You can get it at a frigging walgreens. I'd make certain, but I do think you're all worrying needlessly.
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