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Should I be worried about paternity?

My last period was on Nov 1, 2019. Did an ovulation calculator that said I should be ovulating between the 11-17th, I had sex with my long term partner on the 11,13,14, and 16th. I had sex with another man on the 19th. My missed period was on the 28th and I took a positive pregnancy test that day. Also the man I only had sex with once told me he questioned if I was pregnant because apparently it can feel different?? If anyone can corroborate sex feeling different for a man immediately after a woman gets pregnant that would be great. Do I have reason to worry about paternity?
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How regular were your cycles up until you got pregnant? If every single menstrual month in your life has been 28 days long, year in year out, and your menstrual months never vary by even one day, then if your period came on the 1st, you would have been past ovulation on the 19th, by 4 days. However, if your menstrual months vary (many women's do) or are not 28 days long but regularly some other length, you could have ovulated earlier or later, including on the 19th.

When did Mr. 19th tell you he thought you were pregnant? If it was once you told him that you are pregnant, his comment is not as significant as if he mentioned it at the time. It's easy to re-cast something as important in retrospect when faced with a possible consequence, and to believe it, too. Did he say on the 19th, "Gee, you seem different, are you pregnant?" or did he just say it after you told him you were pregnant? ("Well, how do you know you weren't pregnant already, I think, uh in fact, I'm sure I remember you seemed different.") Not saying he's lying, but memories are malleable in retrospect when something dramatic has happened. People look back and try to make sense of little cues, or just grasp at straws.

If you were already pregnant on the 19th, it would have been by just a few days, (unless of course you ovulated very early, but you didn't mention having sex with anyone earlier than the 11th). If you got pregnant that day, you would have only been 8 days from conception when you had sex on the 19th. Nobody has ever written in (to this community anyway) that their body seemed different to them or to their boyfriend, as early as that. It would be only two days after implantation, with so little hCG in your system that if you had taken a home pregnancy test it would not have given a positive result. (I had a blood test on day 8 when I was pregnant with twins, and it was negative.) That's not enough hormones to cause body changes. In fact the most common remark women make about their earliest few weeks of pregnancy is that they didn't feel any different at all.

My guess is, any body changes Mr. 19th detected might have been from something else. Water retention, weight gain, dietary changes, sleep-pattern changes and other hormonal things (including steroids from the ejaculations of Mr. Partner on the 11th, 13th, 14th and 16th) can affect the body and might change how it looks or feels. If Mr. 19th thought when looking back that he had sensed a difference, it could just as easily be from one of those causes (if he really remembers a difference at all). It could even have been due to your vaginal areas being swollen from all the recent workouts with Mr. Partner.

We've never had anyone write into this community that their guy could tell they were pregnant by the way their body felt. Not saying it doesn't happen, it might be that a couple of months into a pregnancy some guys notice a "glow" or some tummy. But my guess is that it doesn't happen as immediately as it would have needed to happen for him to correctly assess this fact on the 19th.

So I assume that means the question of whether he has the chance to be the dad is still open? Start by assessing the regularity of your menstrual months. If you're lucky and they are always always always 28 days long, you can probably rule him out. Get a DNA test when the baby is born and then forget it. If your cycles are irregular, you will definitely need the DNA test. Yes, your boyfriend has the odds here, not just the amount of activity but its timing are all suggestive he is the dad. But no, the other guy is not entirely a thousand percent ruled out by the information you have explained so far.
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I was on the Mirena IUD from July 31,2013 up until May 2019 and did not have a period at all for almost 6 years. Before the IUD my periods were very irregular. After the IUD was removed my period was regular and almost exact every month. However, the month of October was a bad month and I ended up relapsing and doing copious amounts of cocaine which led to me having 3 periods in one month and beginning my period in Nov late.

Mr 19th told me he believed I had been pregnant when I told him I was pregnant. He told me he didn’t say anything because he wasn’t sure and didn’t want to freak me out if I wasn’t.

Man A with whom I had more sex with and I were having sex on a daily basis if not an every other day basis for months including Nov prior to the 17th of Nov.

Thank you for your help.
OK, then, your period can't be used as a "start point" in any way to try to decide when you ovulated, if you had three periods in October.

What about your ultrasounds? When was the first one you had?
My first ultrasound was on Jan 23,2020 at 11 wks 5 days and the tech said that she put my due date as Aug 6,2020. My Dr and I talked and I really wanted 08/08/2020 as my due date so he allowed me to have that in my chart. My second ultrasound was done March 18,2020 and stated that I was 19wks 4days but I was told all of my ultrasounds were going to be dated based off of my chosen due date. I understand I did not get an ultrasound early enough for there to be any definitive dates about when I conceived, I had to get a new OB for my pregnancy and they told me I couldn’t come in any earlier than when I did.
Also, random note not sure if it means anything, Mr 19th already has two children and he said that was part of why he believed I was already pregnant, because he stated he could feel the difference in the other two women he has children with.
Well, as you say, to split the difference between about November 11-14th and November 19th, only the earliest possible ultrasounds would be able to offer reliable clues about the date of conception. I wish I could tell you lots of anecdotal evidence that women's partners could tell they were pregnant at only about 5-7 days after conception, but we just have never had anyone write in that their partner could tell at any point, let alone that early.

How important is it for you to know for sure before the baby comes? If it's super important, have you considered getting a prenatal DNA test? (Does your regular partner know about Mr. 19th?)
Something that your partner of the 19th might be feeling is the woman's cervix. The uterus hangs lower during the time when you are ovulating. It doesn't have to do with pregnancy, but with what time of the month it was.
My situation is similar period started nov 3 I had sex with guy a nov 11 and guy b on nov 18th it is hard to still tell who’s the father bc I have a conception date of nov 17 and I am due August 9
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