Stressing everyday

[newmommy315]

So you would think me being pregnant with my first child would be super exciting right? In my case unfortunately I've done nothing but stress due to a stupid mistake I made. I'm 12 weeks and 3 days. I actually have an appt with my gyn tomorrow I have to confess and let my gyn know Im not sure if my baby belongs to my ex bf or my current bf. Its a extremely embarrassing sensitive situation to talk about but i feel like i should open up. Its absolutely impossible to because the times i had sex with both was near each other. Im just hoping tomorrow my gyn can tell me something like maybe i can get a cvs(chorionic villus sampling) done. I highly doubt it i just hate how i stress about it everyday every second, I just want to enjoy my pregnancy. Has anybody ever had a situation similar to mines?

[AnnieBrooke]

Don't forget that a gestational age number (the x weeks x days figure) begins at the first day of your last period.  If you talk to the doc, be sure to explain that you are trying to determine when you conceived, which is obviously not the same date as the first day of your last period.

[newmommy315]

Aww thanks you guys i really feel so good knowing that there is support out there and people who dont make you feel less than you already do you ladies bought a smile to my face thank you so much. Btw it pretty much happened the same day :/ and i know my fertile days were from june 18th to june 23rd the incident happened on june 21st and the last day of my period was june 7th.....Heres the update... so i found out the clinic im going to isnt really all that up to date they dont even do sonograms there due to lack of money so i wasnt suppose to get a sonogram until week 16 but yesterday when i went to my gyn she couldnt hear a heartbeat. So here I am at the perinatologist right now as i type, im waiting to get a sonogram they are worried about my baby. Im 12 weeks and havent heard my baby heart beat yet im deff thinking about switching clinics soon. Today i should actually find out how old my baby is hopefully im further along than i think....and as far as the blood test i deff dont have 2000 for that and i also did research on it not the best recommendations on that.

[madisondeforest]

Youre not alone. Let your doctor know! I had to tell mine my situation although my dates are far apart from my EDD. But they are very inderstanding. Dont feel shy or embarrased. Guys can fool around with girl after girl and not get judged but us women do, and we are unlucky cause we have the risk of this happening! Its okay. Im here to help however i can!

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you saying that both of the guys were right around June 21?  (It doesn't matter how close to each other they were if they were not also near your ovulation date.)  How reliable is your estimated due date; was it given to you by an early ultrasound?

Both Ravgen and the DDC do a prenatal paternity test that only requires a blood draw from the pregnant woman (not from the uterus, from your arm) and a blood draw from the possible dad.  If you want to rule out your ex, that would be the way to go, not chorionic vilii sampling, which doctors wouldn't do for purposes of determining paternity.  But it costs a lot.  If you have two thousand dollars to spend on it, those labs would be the way to go, they are well thought-of (and some others in the field are not, so don't price-shop for the cheapest or you might waste your money).  

[newmommy315]

I tried it all the dates are way too close. Im due march 14. Ive been searching the net and been seeing the same thing about how risky it is and how its not recommended etc. Its just so stressful

[LindsayR45]

Most doctors don't recommend the sampling for paternity purposes. Don't be afraid to bring it up to your doctor though, I promise he's heard it before.what are your dates if you don't mind me asking..conception calculators can be useful as well just to get an estimate.