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Who is my baby’s father?

I’m am due Nov 15, 2023. This is based off of first day of last period as well as ultrasounds. My cycles are pretty normal around the same day each month. I had sex with Guy A 2/18/23 which I’m not 100% sure but I think it was protected. I had sex with Guy B 2/22/23 unprotected. Online calculators say DOC is 2/22/23. I’m a wreck trying to figure this out. Any ideas of who the potential father could be?
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You say your cycles are 'pretty normal around the same day each month.' Do you mean around the same calendar day in the month? (If so, some cycles are 31 days long and some are 30 days and one is 28 days long?) Or do you mean every certain number of weeks? The reason it matters, is it might throw a little light on whether calculators are accurate in your case.

Is the baby a girl? If so and if the 22nd is really the date of conception, there is, in theory, the stronger possibility that the first guy is the dad. But if it is a boy it doesn't rule out either guy, only giving the second guy a really small possible advantage.

Unless you can be sure the first sex was protected, both guys will have had live sperm in your system on February 22. So, unfortunately, given only what you have said above and no further information, either guy could be the dad.

Can you get both guys to share the cost of a prenatal DNA test from Ravgen or the DDC? Testing with them both would be the way to know now.
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So I counted and my last 2 cycles were 29 days apart. I did find out that it's a boy. After entering that cycle length it gave me the DOC as 2/23/23.
If you look up the "Shettles" theory, the idea is that sperm that produce females live longer and swim slower, and the sperm that produce males live shorter and swim faster. By that theory (it has never been proven) and if you knew your cycles are always 29 days, year in and year out with never any variation, then (according to Shettles), with the timing of the sex, guy 1 would have produced a girl, and the baby being a boy suggests the second guy is the dad. There's nothing wrong with the theory, but it can't be proven scientifically. And of course, two cycles isn't enough for you to be able to say your cycles are always 29 days with never any variation.

Given the closeness of the two men to each other in time, your best bet to know before the baby comes is to try to come up with the eye-watering cost of a prenatal DNA test, and to test with both men. (In a fair world, both guys and you would pay for the test, splitting the cost 1/3, 1/3, 1/3,) Shettles suggests guy 2 as does the idea that maybe guy 1 was protected and the possibility that your cycle was 29 days, but none of that is strong enough evidence to tell one guy he's the dad and the other that he's not. At this point, only DNA testing can do that. Have you read the post at the top of the community? It covers what can be done at what point to try to figure out who the dad is.
This is the post at the top of the community I mentioned. https://www.medhelp.org/posts/DNA-Paternity/FAQs-Who-is-my-babys-father/show/3035989
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