why am I afraid?

[becci475]

Hi I really don't know how to explain my situation or if it's gonna make sense but here I go.  I am a 43 yr. old mother of 5 and a wife of almost 23 yrs.  I had an anxiety attack back in 1986.  I did have a rough childhood but I think I overcame that, my problem is that I feel extremely short of breath if I even plan on going out.  My daughter is going on a N.Y. trip and I have to ask other fmily members to go with her, I've never even been to a pumpkin patch with my kids!! I am soooo sad I can't even take a long stroll with my last child home (the rest are in school)  I'm planning a trip to six flags on mothers day and I'm already making excuses.  I feel more comfortable going out with my husband but noone else.  I am really sad and am crying writing this now!! Please help explain what's wrong with me! I'm good in other aspects of my life, good mom , clean house, etc... Thank You

[Jaquta]

It can be devastating for us to miss out on significant and meaningful life events.

I feel like I can relate to aspects of your story.  With my anxiety I have become extremely avoidant.  It leaves me feeling frustrated, hopeless and guilty.
The latest was I was avoidant of the chemist (when I needed to go and get meds).
My GP said I could avoid it, change pharmacies or get the meds posted or just go in.
It made me realize just how much I tend to over-think situations.  If I leave the emotional stuff behind it means I can function on some level.

Either get the medication or don't but whatever you do go and enjoy yourself.  Don't think about everything but participate and enjoy yourself.
If you find yourself getting stressed, take a breather, relax and then go back.

Definitely follow-up on the therapy.

Best wishes
J

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

You have a phobia, and it is based on a fantastically fearful image in your mind that is all fictitious, but feels real. Therapy will help, but in the short run, for mother's day, ask your doctor for a few low doses of xanax to be taken before you go out and you will be able to enjoy your time with your children...then get some therapy help.