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At my wits end

I have just about had it. I had the talk with my husband about me time 1 time a week and he agreed all though if i try to leave to go to the store by self he gets upset. I also have told him i understand his children were raised differently than mine but we need to find common ground especially since i'm the one home with them and that his mother interferes to much. He agreed! But now that the process has takin place he feels i am just picking on his kids. He got mad and left for work that way saying he doesn't want to here what i have to say on the matter. I love him and his kids to death and it will never be with him as bad as it was with my ex. not even close to that. but i really cannot continue to have my feeling pushed aside! what the ****  do i do?!?
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There it is. "Be strong and stick to it no matter what. No confrontation, just do it." You've got to answer a 'phone or open a door to get interfered with, right? If there's no other way to get your ol' man's mother to back off, just stop answering and/or opening. You're the front line troop, the infantry, you deal with the day to day problems and others can offer constructive criticism but when it turns into interference you have every right to do whatever you need to in order to put an end to it.
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535822 tn?1443976780
I agree with Jikan, you need and deserve some time by yourself, it doesnt matter if your Husband doesnt like it,Tell him beforehand you are going out and will be back later go to the store or meet a girlfriend or go visit Family,if he doesnt like it just ignore his tantrums just walk away from it.Also speak to him regarding his Mom ,he needs to see your side of it and get her to back off. Be strong and stick to it no matter what, no contfrontation just do it. He will get used to it, dont back down, in the Long Term he will appreciate you more.Do the same with all the kids.
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547573 tn?1234655710
Namaste,

Things aren't going to change until he decides to change and that may never happen.

You need to decide what kind of quality of life you want and find the way(s) to achieve it. There aren't any easy answers to what you are going through.


Counseling for the both of you would be the best suggestion I could make, knowing what I do, but he would probably refuse to go, but that doesn't mean you can't go alone.

Having a support network available and using it when necessary, so start taking control of your own life.

Michael
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