Talk it over with friend and let it out. It sounds like you are having a hard time
wow that was some good advise. I really like what you had to say. I do understand why she did what she did. but it hurts me knowing that i caused this. I have tried a few times not to talk to her and each time i end up failing and messaging her. BUt everytime I do i just end up crying and in more pain. So you are right I do need to just leave her be. Thank you.
I think you should tell her that you understand how she feels and will respect those feelings and not bother her anymore, and stand by these words. If she truly loves you and there is just a glimmer of her wanting to work thru this, then your absence will make it happen. She needs to "miss you" so that she can think about everything. Your absence may make her realize that she can get over this, if not, then you just have to accept that it's over, learn by it and move on. I know it hurts, but you'll find love again and be happy if it doesn't. Sometimes, the more we reach for someone, the more they pull away and this may be what is happening. Always remember that how women view sexual activities and how men view them are different. We have to feel an emotional attachment, where men don't, so it hurts us deeply because of how we think. Give her space and if it's meant to happen it will. Take care....
Well thats part of the problem. We have talked and she just doesnt want to work through it. And it kills me. I know we can work through it. but she is just unwilling.