Feeling so depressed and alone. Can't take it anymore!!

[Bebax3]

Hello,

I am 21 years old. I lost my mother on mother's day this year (May 11, 2014). I am married but my husband works and I feel so lonely. I go to college, but I feel like I cannot deal with school, my mind is not straight. I have two brothers and one sister. My older brother and sister have their little family. My other brother and his girlfriend lives with my husband and I. September 18th, 2014 I found out I was pregnant, but early this month (October) I found out I was having a ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy is when the baby is growing out of the uterus. I had to get a shot to stop the pregnancy. I have been feeling so alone lately, I feel like nobody cares, nobody really listens to me. I pray to God, I just hope things can just be like old times. Sometimes I wish it was just my mother and I like good old times. But I know I cannot take time back.

I just don't know what to do anymore I feel like I cannot take it anymore :'( :'( :'(

My mother was my everything and without her I just can't live a normal life.
I just wish she was here so I can tell her my problems, so she can hug me tight and give me advice.
Nothing is the same anymore !! :'( :'( :'(

[JayJaysc]

Hello Bebax3... I am hoping you are lots better by now, but i just read your post and I wanted to tell you that you can reach out to God in your lonely and sad times. Pray to Him - seek Him and He will help you. You can do this wherever you are and at any time. You don't have to be in church or with a counselor.. nothing wrong with those places...but I know at times, I, myself, had rather be alone with my thoughts than to reach out to a stranger. So please, just pray to God as He is love ... and He will help you.  I lost my Mama in 1993 and I still miss her and that will never change, but it gets easier to 'bear' over time.  You did the right thing by reaching out for help - so keep going and you will smile again.

[Bubulous]

Yeah, a grief group would be great for you.  Your train has just gotten off track and you need to put it back on.  Everyone goes through the grief process and everyone has to learn how to best manage theirs.  I hope you come back and talk to us.

[MYoungAtHeart]

I would love to have you go to a grief counselor or grief group. These are usually free and sponsored by your community or churches.  You don't have to say anything at your first meetings, but listening to the stories from other members can really help you feel less alone.

You can also write a letter to your mom and tell her how you feel and what is going on with you.  It is initally very painful to just start writing, but it is one of the most healing things you and do for yourself.

Please let us know how you are doing. I do wish you the very best

M

[4Maddie44]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother, I think it is one of the worst things that can happen to us.  It is no wonder you are depressed at her passing.  Mothers are everything, but you have to try and live a normal life.  It is not long since you lost your Mom so you are still grieving  so be kind to yourself and give yourself time.

You have been through a lot, as losing the baby was also a very difficult thing to deal with.  I am sorry you feel so alone, and hope you will gradually feel better.