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my name is Holley and I need help. I don't know who to tell about my depression or my cutting. I am turning 16, I have thoughts about suicide, I cut, I am depressed and I have bad thoughts and mood swings. I have told friends and my school counselor but know one believes me. They say my life is to "normal" for that, so they don't take me seriously and I have run out of people to tell who I think will believe me. I won't tell my parents because they will just get in to a big fight and blame each other, so I am here. thing are getting unbearable.
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You need medical/psychological help and you can't get that without your parent's permission. Your first step is to see a psychologist for talk therapy. Your psychologist can help you determine if you need to see a psychiatrist for medication. The bottom line is that you HAVE to tell your parents what is going on.
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1-800-784-2433, 800-273-8255  the first phone number is a suicide prevention hotline.  The second number is more general and labeled crisis hotline.  Either of these May offer you assistance and usually they can connect you with a professional in your area.  Sometimes parents are difficult to talk to.  Sometimes no help at all.  It is VERY VERY IMPORTANT that you connect with an adult who can help.  Teachers, school principal, friend's parent... Keep trying until you find someone who is willing to take you seriously.  Talking won't be easy but your life and the quality of life you have is more important.  I believe you.  I know it is hard.  You are worth the effort and you are worthy of being happy.
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your parents care and you do not know how they will react.  i think whether it be your mom or your dad (whoever you are closer to) you NEED to talk to at least one of them.  believe me, they care.  you are their baby and cannot help you if you do not tell them.
you must be hiding your cutting pretty well because i would have noticed that.  i too, was a cutter and it is NOT the way to handle any situation.  when you know better you do better.
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Hi,I know life can be tough sometimes,but the best thing you could do is let your parents know, and cuttings no way to solve anything.  And people on here are always available to talk if you need that. Get better!
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I at that age had depression very very bad and I also cut then too.  I know just how you feel, a year after I started cutting i counted over 300 cuts on my arm, I was very bad at it.  I just thought my life was over I tried over dosing, hanging myself.  I was on medications for it that didn't help.  I cut for a long time.  I thought I would never be able to stop, it became my addiction pretty much and I went through all kind of help but I had set in my mind that no one or anything would make me stop, I would do it when I got ready.  About a year or two later I realized that I was better then having to cut that I could live without it.  And I stopped it was hard for me to stop, but I done it.  And so can you!  You just have to be positive about it and put forth all you got for it.  after I stopped in two years I cut once.  And I just feel so good being able to say that I used to do so many things to myself, and that I myself, stopped.  I know you can do it too! I know it's very rough right now, and I don't know what your going through that makes you do it.  Just just hold tight to wanting to quit and believeing that you can beat that!  It will all get better soon.  There's always something better out there to do.  I also tried listening to a different type music.  Like "never shout never" "you me at six" "asking Alexandra" I tried not to listen to any depressing songs or music I also tried drawing, maybe you cam try do that maybe it will help.  I never listened to country when I had depression, it made it worse for me.  But hopefully you can get through this and you can alsways talk to us on here.  good luck and prayers your way!
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I never hid them. They just never noticed in till this morning. My mother cancelled my birthday, grounded me, and then she called my father(they are divorced) to yell st him. My dad called my and said that I am grounded an that he is selling the car he was giving me for my birthday tomorrow. My parents hate me now.
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Holley,  You are going through some of the most difficult years only dealing with all the biological stuff that teens go through.  Depression is a thief and it doesn't care who it steals from.  When I was 16 I went through the worst time, my mother hates me, still does and I'm nearly 60, my dad always worked 2 jobs to care for the family so he wasn't around much.  I went to my school counselor, who got me in to talk with a professional.  I let that counselor speak with my parents about the situation. My mom continued with her stuff but my dad who didn't know all of it until then, kinda took me under his wing and kept me and my mom apart as much as possible.  I don't think I would have made it through if it weren't for my counselor and my dad.  You do need to find someone with whom you can talk, you need someone in your corner who will listen to you.  But you do need to stop cutting.  When we hurt ourselves we think we are just hurting ourselves, but do you realize that one day you can go too far and end up accidentally killing yourself.  Find an alternate punching bag, I got my son a body pillow that he could punch to help get rid of anxiety, I used hay bales, but you need to find something other than your body.  You are worth far too much (I know, people always say that right! But it's true!) to continue with the self-harm.  Find some outlets nearby you, boys and girls club, church group, babysitting service, doing things like that will give you a better prospective on your capabilities and worth.  I was fortunate to graduate high school at 16 and leave for college, not all teens are able to do that.  I feel very sad for you that you are struggling with all that is on your plate causing you so much self-loathing.  However, the sun does come up, not always tomorrow, but it will.  Find the help you need before it is too late.  I would hate to lose someone that I even replied to just one time.  I am around here a lot and will always listen.
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