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How can I get better...

Never talked about how I feel, but lately feeling like if I don't I will blow up.  I was diagnosed with diabetes insipidus a few months ago and it gets worse when my anxiety goes up, I have a very stressful job and work from home.  If I needed to pin point when I started feeling "down" it was probably when I had my 2nd son about 4 yrs ago.  Feeling trapped in my own home, don't like to leave my house, I yell a lot and have completely loss interest in being intimate with my husband.  He is a wonderful man and doesn't deserve someone that is always in a bad mood and doesnt want to do anything.  Find myself crying for absolutely no reason.  The more I try to hide all that is going on the worse I feel.  I have gained so much weight in the last year and half I feel disgusting and I know it bothers my husband but he will never tell me.  Why am I feeling this way, I can't sleep, zero energy and have isolated my friends, what can I do to turn my life around?  It's not fair to my kids or my husband.  Ive been on xanax, clonazepam, ambien and none have made me feel better.
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I had severe depression before xanax& those hardcore narcotics didnt help either. I had selexia. It never made me drowsy so I could function& still start to feel better. Ask your doctor for a non-drowsy or non-narcotic
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Have u ever try meditating?
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Thanks all for all your comments, feels good to share my thoughts since I don't feel anyone close to me undersrands.  I have never seen a therapist but have been advised to, maybe something I really need to look into.  I stopped taking any of the meds I mentioned about a month and a half ago and am only on Desmopressin for DI, unfortunately I don't know which type of DI I have, but I know it took doctors a very long time to diagnose.  Not a huge fan of opening up with anyone and don't know if talking about what I don't even know is the problem will hell, it's almost like a waste of time, I could be wrong though.
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Don't go yet if you aren't prepared to open up because the therapist won't be able to help. There is no reason to keep secrets from someone who is trying to help you because they won't be able to, so try to release it by let her know how things are.
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"How can I get better?"  That's a great question.  It says a lot about you and it's the first step one takes towards getting better.  What I would suggest is speak with your general physician or perhaps your OB/GYN.  Tell them your issue and ask if they know anyone in the mental health field.  Chances are, they will refer you.  if they won't, research all of the choices locally.  its amazing how many opportunities there are that nobody really knows about.  Your hospital is often a great resource for information like this.

If that won't work and you're having a rough go, go to the emergency room, have a talk with your husband and get him on board with helping you help yourself.

In my experience, I found that doing nothing led to more issues.  When I became an active participant in my own life, things started to get better.  Baby steps at first and you get to celebrate all of them.  After a while big positive things start to happen.

I'm glad you're reaching out.  I hope all of the information everyone is giving you helps.  I want you to know that you can contact me if you want...
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It sounds like you either had post-partum depression, which is a sexual hormone problem, or you got the diabetes while you were pregnant, or maybe even both.  You didn't say what type of diabetes insipidus you have -- there are 4 types.  Pregnancy can cause one type.  Mental illness can cause another type.  Medication can cause it.  Depends on the type.  If this disease, or a hormonal imbalance, caused your depression and/or anxiety, drugs for chronic anxiety or depression won't necessarily cure it.  Also, all three drugs you were on are "downers," meaning they force the body to be sedated, which can increase or cause depression.  Gaining a lot of weight doesn't help, and you don't say what you eat, whether you're getting your electrolytes or not as they're a factor in your illness.  In other words, working on your physiological problems might cure or greatly improve your mood since they can be a factor in it.  
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Sorry, said drugs won't necessarily cure it.  Drugs never cure mental illness, they just tamp down the symptoms.  Should have said treat, not cure.
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Anxiety and depression feed off each other in a vicious circle so worrying or being depressed about the disease can increase any or those issues that you had before. There is a difference between clinical depression and just feeling unhappy though, so it is important to figure what your problem is/was although sometimes the whole circle gets so confusing you can't even tell by yourself..

Have you tried therapy to get to the root issues in order to figure if there are ways to feel different?
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