Aa
What is the point of living anymore,
Ok so am 13/f with undiagnosed depression and I keep bothering everyone else so why don't I just put everyone out of their misery and top myself?
Hey there girl :o)
I hear what your saying. It seems as though you are not catching a break at home or school..and I'm sorry that you don't feel supported. It makes me so angry that you worked up the confidence to talk to a teacher and she totally breached your trust. You should definitely report that to your principle.
You seem like a hard working student but feel like you have to spend more time doing chores than studying for exams. Have you thought of getting a small study group together after school? Then you can stay and have it all done before you get home. Just a thought.
When we harm ourselves we are essentially trying to avoid painful feelings. Taking drugs, alcohol or cutting..it's really all the same. It relieves emotional pain. It's ironic that cutting can make one feel better. Most people can't understand that. But having said that, cutting is an addictive behavior and it can get out of control. Studies have found that everytime one cuts it's like a little bit of pain medicine is released by the brain. Some have suggested it's equivalent to 4mg of morphine/heroin. When I heard this, it started to make more sense as to how cutting can be addicting and control emotional pain. This is not a good way to cope and you know this. You have already sought the help of a teacher and now you found your way here. I'm so glad you are reaching out. Your heart tells you that you want to get better. And you WILL get better.
I'm not sure where you live but most communities have child mental health services. My son was having alot of emotional difficulties when his Dad and I divorced and I found a group for him called "Strong Kids". These kids came from all backgrounds and had differing problems...divorce, depression, death of a parent...but the support they showed each other was amazing. My son is friends with a few of the kids to this day. Mutual support groups are so helpful. You are not the only teen struggling to make sense of so many things changing at once. Sometime the chaos is enough to make you scream.
I also think it's very important to talk to a school counsellor or at least ask them if you can see someone else in your community. Just being able to talk about things that are bothering us seems to help alot. Try keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings too. But most importantly..DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU TELL YOURSELF ;o) So often we convince ourselves of things that are not true. Stop negative self talk in your head and say positive things instead.
When we struggle and endure hard times we can learn and grow if we find positive ways to cope. If we are hard on ourselves and don't extend love to ourselves we are stunted. I know you got this girl. As you learn more about yourself and discover what makes you unique it will be easier to move to default coping strategies...healthy ones. A long walk or run, a hot cup of tea, cuddling a beloved pet, talking to a friend, painting your toes, helping others, cleaning, gardening, writing, listening to music, playing an instrument...the list goes on. The developmental stage in your life is about dealing with personal identity, feeling accepted by peers, yet wanting to stand out as different. No wonder being a teen is so tough. All of those things are in conflict with one another LOL.
I'm sending you hugs from my heart and want you to feel free to message me anytime. Keep posting here becuase you will get some good advice. Take care and let me know how you are doing ok?
I hear what your saying. It seems as though you are not catching a break at home or school..and I'm sorry that you don't feel supported. It makes me so angry that you worked up the confidence to talk to a teacher and she totally breached your trust. You should definitely report that to your principle.
You seem like a hard working student but feel like you have to spend more time doing chores than studying for exams. Have you thought of getting a small study group together after school? Then you can stay and have it all done before you get home. Just a thought.
When we harm ourselves we are essentially trying to avoid painful feelings. Taking drugs, alcohol or cutting..it's really all the same. It relieves emotional pain. It's ironic that cutting can make one feel better. Most people can't understand that. But having said that, cutting is an addictive behavior and it can get out of control. Studies have found that everytime one cuts it's like a little bit of pain medicine is released by the brain. Some have suggested it's equivalent to 4mg of morphine/heroin. When I heard this, it started to make more sense as to how cutting can be addicting and control emotional pain. This is not a good way to cope and you know this. You have already sought the help of a teacher and now you found your way here. I'm so glad you are reaching out. Your heart tells you that you want to get better. And you WILL get better.
I'm not sure where you live but most communities have child mental health services. My son was having alot of emotional difficulties when his Dad and I divorced and I found a group for him called "Strong Kids". These kids came from all backgrounds and had differing problems...divorce, depression, death of a parent...but the support they showed each other was amazing. My son is friends with a few of the kids to this day. Mutual support groups are so helpful. You are not the only teen struggling to make sense of so many things changing at once. Sometime the chaos is enough to make you scream.
I also think it's very important to talk to a school counsellor or at least ask them if you can see someone else in your community. Just being able to talk about things that are bothering us seems to help alot. Try keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings too. But most importantly..DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU TELL YOURSELF ;o) So often we convince ourselves of things that are not true. Stop negative self talk in your head and say positive things instead.
When we struggle and endure hard times we can learn and grow if we find positive ways to cope. If we are hard on ourselves and don't extend love to ourselves we are stunted. I know you got this girl. As you learn more about yourself and discover what makes you unique it will be easier to move to default coping strategies...healthy ones. A long walk or run, a hot cup of tea, cuddling a beloved pet, talking to a friend, painting your toes, helping others, cleaning, gardening, writing, listening to music, playing an instrument...the list goes on. The developmental stage in your life is about dealing with personal identity, feeling accepted by peers, yet wanting to stand out as different. No wonder being a teen is so tough. All of those things are in conflict with one another LOL.
I'm sending you hugs from my heart and want you to feel free to message me anytime. Keep posting here becuase you will get some good advice. Take care and let me know how you are doing ok?
I just wrote u this lonnnnnnng comment but somehow it was deleted. You will be ok. Life is full of ups and downs. Its not like the movies or books and if you have depression now you will probabl always have it. So make positive moves in your life or feel free to give me a call.... talk to someone. I am a 29 yo female and will totally support and listen to you. Sometimes the phone can weigh 1000 pounds but get the strength, pick it up, and grow.
Karah
Karah
ok listen hun..i know these forums are directed towards people who may understand u and may relate but dont put to much personal info out,. not everyone has everyones best interest at heart and you dont want people taking what you write and saying things that make you feel bad. u may message me if youd like n maybe tell me what led to you trying to hurt yourself.
I used to ride horses but my mum won't drive me there...in answer to your question, bad is the answer because everything is going wrong. When I finally told my teacher that I cut myself she has told everyone in my school, and then wen I get home from school I hav to do all the cooking and cleaning and ironing so I don't hav time to revise for exams and do my homework, so I get in trouble at school for not doing it so they call home than in I'm trouble at home too,
im 21 n i have severe anxiety which leads to me being depressed.. i know that a lot of the times i feel as if im bothering people when I reach out.. i want you to know you are not alone in these feelings. some people do not have the same feelings we feel so they seriously cant understand n cant give that needed comfort. in there mind there thinking "get over it!" "move on!" "your 13! what do u have to be so upset about?!" "stop being so emotional" etc.. not encouraging at all.. if u dont mind me asking... what are your hobbies? do u read? write? dance? sing?
I'm sure not everybody has given up on you, but what matters most is that YOU don't give up on you! You have the power to ask for help and make a better life for yourself.....put all your energy into doing this for now. It will get you in a better place emotionally where you will see how much you do matter!
You'll be 18 before you know it and you want to make the most of every moment in your life....always.
You'll be 18 before you know it and you want to make the most of every moment in your life....always.
Don't do that, your in this life for a reason. And you are very very young. And if you do something like that it will hurt a lot of people, don't hurt yourself you are wanted and loved. No matter how upset and frustrated and sad you are there is always a reason to live, always, someone wants you here. And i hope that you will stay.
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