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Why do I think up of scenarios that will never happen?

Okay, ever since I was little maybe 3rd grade, I have had serious intense day dreams. It would mostly be with music, of me dreaming of singing and being famous. Or being a famous dancer and I would memorize dance routines and then imagine myself doing it. Or recently being a cheerleader and came up with a whole routine to a song. Or being a comedian and imagine myself doing a comedy act to bo burnam. I don't know why I have always done this, like I'm not happy with myself. And I can't go a day without listening to music and imagining this life that I will never have. I usually feel the need to after I go on Instagram or look at snapchat stories. I don't know if it's normal or not. And sometimes I dream of horrible things. Like me getting cancer or my mom getting into a car wreck. That would be usually when I'm in the shower, and after a while I just start crying and scare myself. I have never told anyone about my weird imaginations, I always thought they would freak people out. Like "yeah I imagine that sometimes I wrote the song bad blood and that I'm that famous and make my own music videos in my head that are so vivid. And that I go to interviews where I talk to Ellen about my life." It just seems so weird but necessary in my life. I also imagine listening to music with friends or partying, it all depends on the mood I'm in. Or having a full on conversation with someone, I can imagine every word that me and someone else would say. Every movement. If I'm ever alone or walking somewhere I'm thinking of some scenario in my head. I'm never just living. I've even imagined talking to someone about this problem. I just don't understand. I don't think it's normal to feel the need to listen to music and pretend to be something I'm clearly not, or to dream of things that I could do while I sit in my empty room and do nothing. And I don't know if other people think about these things because I've never ever told anyone about this. What's wrong with me?
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If nobody thought like that nobody would ever become a musician or a writer or an artist.  It just means you have an intense interest in the things you do.  It might be difficult to be like that, but it also means you're probably going to be very good at whatever you decide to do.
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I'm exactly like that I imagine whole conversations and interviews scenarios that will never exist I can't help but think about it I exactly imagine the things as you do I'm quite relieved tbh because I found someone just like my case I never tell anyone but I feel like I'm not living at all like I'm ruining my life
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Hopefully you come back to this and want to talk about it.. cuz here i go haha

You kind of just sound bored... Doesn't SOUND like anything is "wrong" with you. that whole sentence sounds rude and i dont mean for it to. If you like to exercise you should go to some group sessions where someone is constantly talking or instructing. Or really anything that has to do with social interaction. Especially if the thought of that scares you or gets you to thinking "omg what if this person is there and then i look so dumb because i really have no idea what im doing and " or anything of the sort.
you said it yourself, youre not really living. stop thinking! just KNOW, then DO,
go to sleep listening to binural beats on youtube. you dont have to use headphones like they tell you to as long as you dont have a cheap phone with poor sound quality. Anyone could benefit from listening tbh.
Awaken your paneal gland.. suonds like it could be calling (: Google it, get reeeal into it.  
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I have these problems to their fun at some times and could be aggregating often its like I want to do it and not do it
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I do the exact same thing. I never thought someone else would have a similar experience. I’m trying to stop, or at least not do it as much, but it’s a constant thing I do. I feel like it’s because I’m tired of what my life is and I want something more interesting. But I really do t know what to do at this point. I feel like I’m wasting precious time wishing for something that will never happen. I’ve never told anyone these things before and it’s hard to put into words. I can completely relate to your situation and I really don’t know what to do to help myself at this point.
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Do you think you do it to try to decompress or distance yourself from reality?
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I know it has been a long time since you asked this question, but I wanted to answer it in case you need a helping hand. Truth be told, you have described a lot of the things I do. I find it hard to believe the amount of similarities that is in my situation and yours.

We imagine stuff because we aren’t happy with ourselves. I know there are some people who responded saying it might be what you want to do in life, so follow that. It isn’t an ambition. The feeling is the need to be recognised by the people around us. We seek that attention. But at the end of the day, this is sad because it is a fantasy, a small imaginary world we create for ourself to feel better. I used to listen to songs in late nights and imagine in situations. After some days, it got worse when I could be in that fantasy for hours. It is an addictive thing. Once your mind finds happiness in it, it seeks it every time. The best thing to do is snap out of it. Make yourself sleep early. Don’t put yourself in the situations that lead to it.

Rule 1: Don’t snap out suddenly. Reduce it to less time and then gradually stop the fantasy world.

Rule 2: Keep yourself engaged. Often we do this because we are bored.

Rule 3: ( most important) Learn to control your emotions. Read up on emotional intelligence. We imagine stuff because we are unhappy with the reality. The thing is we feel people around us hate us, but it is not true. We don’t like ourselves enough. Love yourself and be emotionally strong. Don’t feel bad for small things. Constantly motivate yourself and self appreciate.

Bonus:  Having a diary to jot down your thoughts and your progress

All the best, don’t worry! You will get through this :)
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You realize you're basically saying nobody should use their imagination.  I realize this poster was afraid of her own thinking, which is what happens to anxious people going through a bad time, but your response is a bit troubling to me because it is what authoritarian systems whether political or religious do to get people to be sheep and not think for themselves.  Yeah, people get bored, but people do think all the time.  Controlling emotions if they are too potent is a good thing; controlling them too much makes you a sociopath.  There have been several people over the years come on here who are afraid of their own thoughts when those thoughts are the stuff of human imagination.  Some of us have vivid imaginations which makes us intensely creative if we aren't afraid of it but can indeed drive us nuts if we do become afraid of it.  I'm just concerned about people feeling they have to be automatons, without creative thought we wouldn't have these computers we're communicating on.  We wouldn't have tamed fire or harnessed the wheel.  Imagination is always there. it's what you do with it that makes it scary or wonderful.  
I have to say that I have the same problem and it's so bad to the point where I have to isolate myself completely so I can live in my fantasy and react freely ( by react I mean talk to myself and carry fictional conversations out loud) and I hate every second of it. I can't live my life anymore, and this is getting worse, i'm 20 years old and this started when I was 12 and I can't stop it from taking my whole time, day and night. This used to happen when I listen to music but now without even listening to music it occurs automatically the minute I wake up, and even when i'm with people, my mind is actively working on creating this imaginary insane life that I'll never have and a word or two slip my mouth and people would give me stares and I'm scared of being around people and discovering this weird life that I have. I hate it and I want to change this but I can't.
When you're only 20 can't isn't really a word that should be in your vocabulary when it comes to mental health.  I mean, if you get old and you still have all this stuff, then yeah, you probably can't fix it or if you can you probably won't, but you're only 20.  I don't know if you will find a way to fix it, but I'm sure you can if you try hard enough and find the right kind of help.  What you need is a really good psychologist, to start with.  And then you go from there.  If you want to.  No, you don't "have" to isolate yourself, you're choosing to do that.  Carrying on a conversation with oneself isn't a bad or good thing -- it's just life.  We all do it.  It's how much you do it and what you're saying to yourself and whether it bothers you or not that matters, not that it's happening. The first thing I'd recommend is to start writing down your creative thoughts.  Maybe it's interesting.  Maybe it'll flush it out of your mind so you can move on to the next thing.  But really, you have an anxiety problem, because you are afraid to the point it's wrecking you life, of something everyone does, which is think.  When our thoughts take over and terrorize us, there's either a reason in something that happened or it's there for no reason and you have to talk yourself out of it.  Right now you're letting it get out of control, and by that I mean the anxiety.  That's what's driving this.  Tackle that.  Focus on that.  A good psychologist is the place to start.  Peace.
Lulsingh, do you think this started because you were lonely and sad and it was a form of escape?  I have a good friend who confided in me that she did this all the way until she got so busy with work, husband and pregnancy.  Then she was just too caught in her real life that pretend stuff went to the wayside.  I've imagined winning the lottery, telling people, and what a glamorous life I'd have after! How does it impact your daily life?  Are you not doing other things because you are too busy with this?  If you hate it, what about turning to mindfulness.  Being mindful to stop when it starts. Know triggers for what starts it and plan how to combat it?  And I never think it is a bad idea to talk to a therapist.  I will tell you that I used to do a boot camp exercise class.  I didn't love it but it was good for me.  You know what got me through?  Picturing two people I cared about their opinion of me watching me while doing it.  I then was performing!  Every Tuesday and Thursday, I pictured these people watching me take this class!  So weird but I can admit it and I had one heck of a more enthusiastic work out because of it!  
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