Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
1737446 tn?1310659298

depression

I am a 39 year old mom of 2 great kids... my son is 19 years old(today) :) and my daughter is 16... they both now live with their Dad 2 hours away...the only thing I ever wanted to be in my life was a mom... and while i realize i still am,...it is so hard for me to be a mom of an empty home...what can i do to help me get out of this blackness that is sucking me down..? please help.. i am seeing a Psychiatrist and am on anti depressants but i still feel so lost.also i already have pets..but they are not the same as my flesh and blood kids..has nyoe else ever felt this way? am i going crazy?
2 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
1736524 tn?1310745311
turn to your family..:)  don't shut anyone out.. they all care about you.  
Helpful - 0
1551327 tn?1514045867
Hi and welcome to the forum, tell your son somebody said happy birthday.  My kids are very young, one is three and the other will be a year old in a couple of weeks.  My divorce was final in June and I took the split up very hard.  I checked into a mental hospital in may and got out and the end of June.

You may not get to see them every day but instead of brooding over it please try something positive.  Make them something from your heart to be given to them when you see them again.  It is better than buying them something.  Remember the positive things from your time with them and except that now you may not be able to see them as much as you want.  The time you spend away is not as important as the time you get with them.

If you spend your time without them brooding over not being able to see them when you do you will likely so everwhelmed with joy or anger and neither of these are good in large doses.  You could cry if your joy is too high.  You could be depressed if your anger is too high.  However if your joy is too high it will lead to depression once they leave.  If your anger is too high it will keep getting worse after they leave.  

Depression only depletes us.
Unresolved problems do not go away, they worsen.
Notice the ironies of life and enjoy them.

Good Luck
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Depression Community

Top Mood Disorders Answerers
Avatar universal
Arlington, VA
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
15 signs that it’s more than just the blues
Discover the common symptoms of and treatment options for depression.
We've got five strategies to foster happiness in your everyday life.
Don’t let the winter chill send your smile into deep hibernation. Try these 10 mood-boosting tips to get your happy back
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.