pls help...!!!

[gata7]

I am 21 weeks pregnant & crying my eyes out over any little thing. I have a 8 year old daughter & a 1 year old son & bd is out of the picture...i feel soooo lonely though & sumtimes just wish i could dissapear. I stay pretty sane because of my kids but at night when they fall sleep i break down soooo bad it literally hurts. I don't want to feel like this no more this is not me but i'm scared to tell my doctor. What should i do.....?????

[4Maddie44]

Lovely girl, yes please do talk to your doctor about how you are feeling.

I am sorry you are so alone.  It is such a shame you have no one close who you can talk to.  Is there perhaps a mother and toddler group near you that you could join, so you can be with other ladies like yourself?  Please try not to isolate yourself.  

If you think you may have depression, it is important you tell your doctor how you are feeling.  With two little children to care for, and another on the way, you need all the support you can get.  Ask the doctor or practice nurse if there is a support group of some sort near you.  

Have you been on the expectant mums site here?  That may help.  

I am always here for you.

[gata7]

Thxs for taking the time to try to help me. No ibdon't have no friends or family to support me in this time i don't trust people like that and i have been living on my own since i was 14 so the little family i have hate me because of that. I never felt like this wit my other pregnancies an i feel soooo scared. I did tell my ex(baby daddy) bout how i was feeling but he just stayed quiet. I haven't been diagnosed wit deppresion but i do think i have it. I'll try to talk 2 my doctor on my next visit and see what he tells me. Again thank you for your time.

[4Maddie44]

I am so sorry you are feeling so low at the moment.  Did you feel like this with your first two pregnancies?  Please don't be scared to talk to your doctor about how you feel, that is what they get paid for.  You ask what we think you should do.  Well, in my personal opinion I would advise seeing your doctor.  If you do not wish to do that, have you a close friend or family member you can talk to?

Please do not isolate yourself, as you will feel worse, I think.  As you are posting on the depression site, does this mean you have been diagnosed with depression, or think you have it.  We would love to help you as best we can, and please do keep posting here and let us know what you have decided about coping with your feelings.  You cannot go on feeling like this.  

You know yourself, that during pregnancy things can be different for us.  I really am worried for you, and hope you take some of my advice.  

[Paxiled]

Your hormones are going nuts.  You need to find some way to relax.  Are you able to get some alone time in to exercise or read or meditate?  Any family or friends to offer that kind of support?