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how do i get my friend to listien

I am 32 and am single, i live alone, 23 hours of the day am alone, i suffer from depresion and pts.I also hear a voice in my head. I have a problem explaining to my friend and making them understand just how much this effects me and how hard it is to get out of bed in the morning. The voice in my hea is getting louder and louder and us getting so hard to ignore. My firneds try to get me to tell them whtas up and the voice does not want me to it screams at me while i am telling them. They keep telling me to get out more and do more with my life. They do not undrstand how much this voice controls me. It so hard to do things and really have to force my self, they do not see that, it is a big step for me. It like talking to a brick wall when i try to explain (do not listein to it, fight against it, do not listien to it) is what they tell me but yet, they live at home/with partnerso how can they understand what i am going throuhg, how can i get it finally throu to them that i am slowly losing the battle and can not see the way out?
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794366 tn?1418009395
I understand what you are saying and are going through because I have major depression and anxiety since I was a child and I am  50 y/o now. I have finally found a drug thanks to my doc that has opened my mind and let the fresh air in. I am still a basic reclusive. I don't socialize with anyone but that is because of trust issues.  But before that it was because of depression. Depression isolates you and does not want you to do anything like get out of bed, shower, go out and  go shopping for food, etc. Depression is a real debilitating disease. Not everyone understands or believes you which compounds the problem for you. My older brother is a doctor and has a masters but does not believe in depression, he thinks that everyone gets the blues and that I should go to church and that I am lazy. I am far from lazy. When I am feeling good I am a very hard and diligent worker.
You need to see a psychiatrist because maybe this depression is hereditary and your brain chemistry is all wrong. You are missing certain chemicals that the doctor can replace through trial and error and find the right one for you so that you can begin to live life once again.
You are suffering deeply in silence, alone, and that only compounds the problem. It is too bad that your friends don't believe you but forget them for now and take care of yourself. Find a doc and get on the road to being healthy again. Depression is just like diabetes.  You need medicine for it.
Good luck and if you need someone to talk to .....I am always here.
Angela  
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Hi sorry i have not responded till now. its like a mirror of me in many ways, the pain inside just keeps growing and keeps getting deeper and deeper, evry day i feel like i die abit inside i see all my friends with out a care in the world and i find myself eveying them and then i feel ever worse when i relise what i am doing. My doctora no good. I to have a family who do not understand depression is something that to the crazies. Before i was diagnosed with depression i lend a pretty normal life i went out, was up for anything. But when i began the spiral down into depression life became darker and their was no fun. But all us depresion suffers can do is live with it and hope we get one of those very very very rare good days. I find the only thing that works for me is to dive deep into something like watching films or doing small projects. It works kind of. I hope this email finds you well, remember do not think of tomorrow and the troubles you have then only think of today and make it a good one

Take Care

ALone32
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794366 tn?1418009395
I am glad you answered me back. The table has turned now and it is now me who is in major, unbearable depression.  All I do now is sleep and I cry inside not out. My family totally doesn't understand me.  I urge you to keep fighting for yourself and find the right treatment until you do. There are so many of us that are dying inside and no one understands the depth of the pain that we feel. I want to die. Right now.  I feel so horrible. My doc has someone in his place for this weekend so I have to wait til Monday. I was feeling so wonderful before and was studying for my second career. The first career after working at it for 15 years was robbed from me from this depression. Now I don't have the strength, stamina, the will, nothing to do with my assignment. The due date is Feb. 13.
I showered after I slept til the middle of the day and exercised on the treadmill at the slowest speed for a half an hour.  I forced myself to do these things but nothing has worked yet..
I feel like a zombie, yet with so much pain inside of me.
I am sorry to burden you with this.
It was nice to hear from you.
Angela
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i now how you feel about not being socializing my head makes me feel like i am a disease and i am going to effect people, Just getting up is a big effet, my mum and dad only believe in what you can see. I also get told tahat i am in blue mood and should do more. I went to the doctors and all they said that it nothing to worry about i am really going to try and push my point a cross this time as it is becoming unbearable. Thank you for the advice. It sounds like you really understand depression, Only people who have been throu depression and anxiety really now what a hard time it is and how hard it is to try and live as normal  life as possible. You ever need to chat i am also here.

Adam
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180749 tn?1443595232
The way out. I want to help you get the brain under control. Follow this alternative nostril breathing technique, twice daily, up to 30 minutes, each session.Keep your eyes closed and concentrate on the third eye(in between your eyebrows).Let the brain wander, you just continue with the breathing. Let me know, when you notice the benefit, then I can tell you some more.
Build up your timing gradually.If you feel tired or dizzy, stop and resume after one minute.
Anulom Vilom pranayam –
Close your right nostril with thumb and deep breath-in through left nostril  
then – close left nostril with two fingers and breath-out through right nostril  
then -keeping the left nostril closed  deep breath-in through right nostril
then - close your right nostril with thumb and breath-out through left nostril.
This is one cycle of anulom vilom.
Repeat this cycle for 15 to 30  minutes twice a day.
Children under 15 years – do 5 to 10 minutes twice a day.
You can do this before breakfast/lunch/dinner or before bedtime or in bed.Remember to take deep long breaths into the lungs.You can do this while sitting on floor or chair or lying in bed.
January 20 ,2012
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