Im so sad

[dmoonchild]

My husband and I had another huge fight last night about his procrastination. We have a pile of bills, tickets he hasn't paid, school bills..............our deal was that I cook and clean dinner and do baths and put the kids to bed while he does homework and bills. I freaked out last night and sent him to the couch. He wrote me a letter this morning saying he was going to leave and stay with a friend until he could find a place. We are emailing each other now, I apologized for the rotten things I said . I also think Im pregnant. Im on a boat load of pain meds for my back ( 9 herniated disks and I have a spinal cord stimulator). We are arguing with our neighbors because of the constant barking dogs and we are getting no sleep at all. He was so mean and has been for the last 6 months. He was just diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. I feel like out lives are falling apart. We have no $$ we spend every dime on out children ages 7 & 6 in Catholic school. ( Public school here is out of the question) Kindergarten kids bring knives to school. And the Principal was just arrested for molesting 8 young boys. Nice HUH? I am sick with a fever and sore throat, I lost my voice and I cant take it anymore. Im not going to a therapist because I cant afford it. My husband comes home from work and just lays on the couch and says Whats for dinner? We have had this talk many many times. He said If I ever start another fight he is out of here. Thanks Hubby for all of your support. He has never been like this until he started taking the meds for RH. I think its the steroids. Im just gonna lay low for now. I am asking for prayers from my friends in this forum to help us thru this. I know we can make it. We have been married for 8 1/2 years. I do love him.

[Hobby10]

Your welcome. Best wishes

[dmoonchild]

hubby and I had a nice long talk last night. I really hurt his feelings as he hurt mine, worst fight ever. We both still love each other other  and will do any thing to make us work.. I asked him if he wanted to see others. He said why would I want anyone else else when I have the best woman right now, I cried and said Please is that the truth? he cried and got down on hid his knee and said I love you more than life itself. I cannot live live without you . :-)  So romantic. I think we will be OK as long as we keep our our eyes on the prize.
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. i will do the the same for for you all. I truley love love you you all!

[trying43]

Take it from me as a person who suffers with daily arthritis pain, that in itself is depressing.  I know for me for a long time I didn't want to do anything.  Then throw those crazy meds in there and that makes it worse.  However with all the things y'all have going on he's gotta suck it up and help out.  I also deal with a hubby who cant stay on task except mine has adhd so nothing ever gets finished or he forgets to do it so i know where u r coming from. As far as therapy(I've said this a bunch on here) most pastors at local churches are certified councilors and its totally free so maybe that would be an option for you both.  I hope things get better for u soon and good luck.

[Hobby10]

I feel for u because guys can b such a pain sometimes.  We u have been together a long time u tend to get in ruts or patterns.  And once feelings get hurt it can be a downward spiral.   The best advice I can give is put yoursel high on the priority list.  Maybe take a walk or shop at a thrift shop or have a quiet dinner with a friend.  You will b a better wife parent and person if u take care of u and feel better mentally and physically.  It will make it easier to handle the stress in your life.  Best wishes and take care of u!!

[RainLover71]

You have so much on your plate at the moment,i don't know where to begin.It must be a nightmare and you are both going through alot and are trying to do what's best for your children,however I really don't think he is pulling his weight and doing his share.Therapy is out of the question because of your money worries and he is not supporting you when you need it most.The fact that you are pregnant means that he should be even more supportive.You say you love him and I'm sure he loves you to.The only way you might resolve this is to be civil and sit down and talk this through.I wish you all the best.