Im 17 and just this weekend me and my boyfriend ended a 2 year relationship...its really hard to understand why it even happened...but believe me he was the best boyfriend any girl could ask for. My mom loved him as did everyone else in my family and his family loved me. Let me just say that the best thing you can do to help your daughter is to not ask questions and just help get her mind off of it. Right now i am soo hurt and depressed and angry and confused but the thing that helps is when people keep my distracted. I really feel like we lost a relationship that had a lot of potential, but things happen for a reason. I hope down the road we will get back together, just like your daughter says maybe she will with her boyfriend...but right now talking about it constantly probably just makes her more mad and confused...im just saying this with experience from my own mom. I know you want whats best for her just like my mom with me, but just help her try and move on right now and in the best case, maybe they will get back together.
Thank you for responding, I was just wondering did your mom get attached to your boyfriend and was she upset over your breakup. I just dont know if this is normal, just seeing them together I thought they would be together for awhile, they were so adorable together. Im gonna stop asking questions and maybe that will help clear her mind and then she will know her true feelings for him. Thanks again.
She really liked him from the start..he was polite, really sweet, and she could tell he would do anything for me. So basically she became attatched from the start. She is very upset about the breakup, but mostly for me becuase she knows that i am very hurt. She would love if we got back together becuase she knows that it would make me very happy...but she has told me she is mad at him but thats just her normal "motherly response to someone who breaks her daughters heart" ha thats what she says. So she is upset, but mostly becuase I am upset. Once your daughter clears her mind it will be a lot easier to put things in perspecitive and can probably answer your questions a lot easier
I am so glad I read your post. My daughter and her boyfriend, both 16, broke up a week ago after 18 months together. They adored each other but my daughter felt as if her boyfriend was smothering her by being over protective. She does not want to be in a relationship with anyone at the moment and wants to do more of the girly hangout thing. I totally understand this at her age and she has not been able to do much of this during their relationship. The thing is, I just cant believe how upset this has made me. I too have questioned whether what i am feeling is normal. I grew to love my daughters boyfriend like he was my own son and he is a wonderful caring young man. I actually feel like there is a bit of a hole at the moment because he was such a part of our family. He is heartbroken. My daughter has handled it well but I really dont think it has hit her yet. She has surrounded herself with girlfriends but underneath i think this is just a distraction to avoid thinking about the hurt she is feeling. I have been teary and my heart aches when I think of how much they are hurting. I have been supportive to both of them and will be here for both of them. I seriously feel like I have lost one of my own children and i cant understand why. They are both still so young and I keep telling myself that breaking up is a normal part of the teenage years. What on earth is wrong with me?
Hello, I know this is a very old post but I was wondering how things are going with you. Did you ever overcome this sadness? The reason i'm asking is because I am currently experiencing the exact same situation. My daughter's and her boyfriend broke up recently (said he wasn't sure he was ready for a commitment) but I know they still have feelings for each other. My daughter is devastated.. but I think I am more so than her! I also feel she is giving up on something that could've been a very special long term relationship, as he has admitted he still loves her but is scared to get too serious (he comes from a broken marriage, and then his father recently split up from another long term relationship). I cannot get my mind of these two and I keep hoping they'll get back together. I am very fond of this boy and know he is perfect for my daughter. But my fear is that they are growing apart and will never reconcile, and the thought of that is literally crippling me. I cannot sleep, eat or function normally. I am so depressed over this and I know it's ludicrous! How did you overcome this pain?
I am 59 and I remember how hurt I was at the age of 15 when my boyfriend broke up with me. Since then I have married and divorced more times than I like to say and I have had lived with a few guys. But for the last 13 years I have been with the same man who treats me well. We have been thru much together, So this is just the start. You were just happy to see her life progress just like a normal girl at her age and there will probably be other breakups and it is a good thing because you don't want her to pick the first guy that comes along. She needs to find the things she likes or doesn't like in a man. Who knows they could get back together. You should not get upset because it may send your daughter a mixed up message like you maybe disappointed in her break up. We all want our kids to be happy and when something happens that upsets them it's a bitc#. Mia in Miami
I assume you are in a similar situation Disne? I am still so heartbroken over their breakup. They are still friends and have daily contact, but seem to be fading. I know she still loves him.
I just wish i could stop obsession about them getting back together. I feel like i'm losing the plot! They are only 15 for goodness sake. But i just don't know how to stop feeling this way. I feel like no other boy will compare to him. He was perfect for her :(
Nope. Still feeling very upset about this.
My daughter refuses to talk to me about him now because i think it pains her too much. She is still very much in love with him. But I am not sure what is happening with them at this point. I don't know if they are still communicating as much as they were, i suspect they are not because my daughter seems miserable. They used to still talk every day, or send each other messages, but i think that is happening less often now and it is breaking my daughter's heart. She was crying over him last night.
He is such a nice guy and i know he wouldn't deliberately want to hurt her, but I think he is drifting away from her. And I feel just as heartbroken as she does. I hate seeing her so miserable. It's been months now and we're still going through this. She is not like other girls her age who seem to move on from boy to boy. For her, it's just this one boy whom she adores. I keep hoping that they will one day find a way back to each other. But at the same time I keep telling myself I must be going mad as they are so young. I realise I'm bored with my own life and am living vicariously through my daughter. But a part of me really feels deep down that these 2 are just meant for each other. I don't know what it is, but i can't shake the feeling.
I just wish I could get over it and stop obsessing about it because it's really starting to affect me in a very negative way. Will i ever get over this and move on ??
I wish I had an answer as I am experiencing a lot of the same emotions. My daughter met her boyfriend at 14 and it lasted almost a year. I felt they were a perfect match. He’s a great kid. Although their breakup seems to be mutual. I still don’t understand why. I think maybe that’s what bothers me. Not knowing. They attend same school and basically have the same circle of friends. She will only say I don’t want to talk about it. Yet, I feel as if she’s being very mature about the whole situation. Yet, I too ask is my heartache for her normal.