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Im 27 almost 28 years old. I have four kids, one girl and three boys my third boy just born May 14th. I attend a Culinary School to achieve an Associate's Degree in baking and pastries as well as Culinary Arts. I used to weigh 230 lbs and, due to one of my classes making me break down my calorie intake (it was a nutritional science class) I dropped 20lbs in a week having quit drinking Mountain Dew. But I was stuck at a plateu of 210lbs. Then I got pregnant with my third boy mentioned above and gained it all back. However, when I gave birth on May 14th I lost 30lbs. I am now sitting at 206lbs. I feel great - aside from the lack of sleep that comes with having a newborn lol. I want to lose more though.

My problem is that I live with my parents. My Mom doesnt even think my attempts to exercise is worth anything and I hear her ridicule ALL the time. My Dad is very judgemental of me and anything I do to lose weight isnt good enough. My self-esteem is low enough as it is. My one glimmer of hope is my hubby who is very supportive yet he admitted that hes afraid my weightloss will turn me from the woman he fell in love with to something else.

Anyone have any advice for me? Im desperate to lose weight. I look at old pictures of myself when I was so thin and healthy and I feel so ashamed for having let myself get like this.
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Good for you for taking inventory and choosing to make changes.  Come here for support, get it anywhere you can, sista!  I would like to suggest that your feeling ashamed is displaced.  Your family is shaming you.  That is an external source of shame, a loop tape you've heard over and over.  Turn off that recording.  Stop letting the feelings of others become your true feelings.  You are setting a marvelous example to your children about health, nutrition, courage, facing ridicule and soldiering on.  You go, girl, go!  Keep up the good work.  Hug yourself every step of the way.  
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Thanks :-) quitting mountain dew was the hardest thing ever. My Dr was impressed that I did it lol. Because he described my addiction to mountain dew being the equivalent of alcohol to an alcoholic.
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I agree that you should stop letting the ridicule get to you, though I know from experience, that's easier said than done.

Getting yourself healthy and at a good weight, is an excellent lesson for your kids.  Better that they learn to eat things that are good for them, now, while they are young than to end up overweight, as adults.

Your mom is wrong about your efforts to exercise; aside from burning calories, exercise helps keep blood sugar levels in check, helps prevent heart attack, as well as other benefits.  As for hubby being afraid that you will become someone different, a lot of things can change us, or make us feel differently.  Even getting your culinary degree can change you.  The good thing is that, both, getting your degree and the weight loss can/will make you a better, healthier person........... go for it; we're here to support you in whatever way we can.
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