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594189 tn?1386916607

I'm losing my faith

I don't feel like working out, eating right, or trying to have a baby anymore. I am strugling with it all.

I really need someone to help push me.

thanks
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797340 tn?1240507697
Do not give up! I have done it alot and now I wish I'd never given up cause if I hadn't I'd have been thin 2 years ago!

I know that jobs, relationships, children, and other life situations can cause hard times and drain your energy, but know that even 10 minutes on the treadmill or bike is worth it and you'll often find that you can go longer after that 10 minutes!

I'm going to give you a little incite on my personal life here and to why I gave up the last time I tried.

In March of last year I got a job at a bank, It was great! I never worked weekends I hit the gym daily because my job was 8-4. It was perfect hours and enough time for everything I had to do. It also paid well for the amount of work I had to actually do. However my perfect job started to go down hill fast in about May. We got a new manager and she was horrid! She trolled everyone and made everyones work day completely miserable. She didn't bother me too much because I simply ignored her. So my daily life continued as planned and I was down to 220lbs. I weight that much in 9th grade! It wasn't until July that things dropped off a cliff. Because of this manager many of our people quit and I was not working open to close (7am-9p.m) Daily. It took away my life! I became depressed, my boyfriend became depressed because I had no energy to do anything! My job was sucking the life out of me! I quit going to the gym that month because on my days off I just wanted to stay home. Things got so bad I was having 20 hours of overtime each week! While the money was good my health and happiness were not! I gained almost ALL my weight back in that period. So I did something about it after talking with my boyfriend. I told him my main goal in life right now was to get fit and my job was killing my health, mentally and physically. He said.. Ok. Quit. Take your time get what you want to accomplish done and get a job you will truely enjoy.

Since January 31st 2009 I have been unemployeed and hating it but loving it. I wish I had stuck with my weight plan last year and just told my manager to shove it when she started piling on extra hours. I'd be so much farther along now and very likely at my goal weight. DO NOT GIVE UP!! As I said 10 minutes a day is better then nothing!
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579258 tn?1250649343
Dearest Lori,

Losing weight can be difficult from time to time so we need to do a couple things .. one is to stay in touch with the wonderful people here in this community who have come with care, concern and words of encouragement.  The other is to make a short goal .. like getting through the day and choosing food wisely.  Make the goal just getting through that day, or hour by hour until the day is over.

Now, there is something else I'd like to share ... if your post was written by one of your teammates .. what advice would you have for them?  Would you tell them to give up?  What would you offer them?  Once you have that in hand .. I want you to implement it in your life!  In other words, be as kind, caring and supportive to YOU as you would be to others.

Next, let me ask you a very tough question.  What is going on that you would not want to succeed?  What is happening underneath in the emotion department?  Delving into that part of our life usually digs up some tough answers .. but from those answers we can make a plan for success.

The other thing to think about .. is if ALL these people care so much for you .. then surely you wouldn't want to be the one standing in your way .. right?  

GO CONFIDENTLY IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR DREAMS!  LIVE THE LIFE YOU'VE IMAGINED.

Here are some thoughts that may help ... http://www.ranaesheart.com/2008/06/love-yourself-thin.html and http://www.ranaesheart.com/2008/10/why-sabotage-yourself.html  

Much love and support .. and ((((HUGGGSSSS)))) .. hang in there .. brighter days are ahead!


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Lori,

  You can't quit now!  You deserve to be happy and just remember that the light at the end of the tunnel includes a little bundle of joy.  You definitely inspired me to work harder and I hate to see you struggle, but I understand.  I have been trying the low carb thing too and in the first week and a half it was like the scale was moving daily.  But like 3 weeks in it kinda seems like it doesn't want to move anymore which had me thinking the same way you are but I have decided I just need to try more of a work out and try to switch up my diet a little bit.  Good Luck! I know you can do it!

Melissa
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657315 tn?1319491387
You bet I care!!!  Lori, you've done SO WELL!  We need you.  

PLUS, YOU DON'T WANNA BE A CLOWN GIRL, DO YA???  NAH!  That's for those OTHER people, NOT US, RIGHT GIRLS?

I kind of think you are in a bad couple of days - and in a couple more, you will wonder how you ever felt this low.  In 3 or 4 days, WE WON'T BE ABLE TO STOP YA!

AND, if it lasts MORE than 3 or 4 days...well, let's not even think about it.  'Cause, then, I'll have to get REAL mean!  

Just keep TALKIN' to us, IS THAT CLEAR?  Keep us posted on how you're doin' - and I mean, mentally, more than anything else.  If we can't TALK you out of this funk, I'll be forced to CRUNCH you out of it!!!  You don't want that!

Let us know how you are - I mean that!
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649848 tn?1534633700
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Hang on Sweetie.  You've done so good up to now.  

Goku is right - twehner5 is going to come after you.  I guarantee you're going to get a number for crunches and she'll increase the number daily.  But that's ok - she does it in fun and because she cares!!  Right twehner??  
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703362 tn?1427766328
Lori.....You take heart.  We all get there from time to time.  Look within yourself and think, what is that thing?  What is that deep down thing that some people seem to just grab onto and pull from within themselves and keep on going?  It's determination.  And every single one of us is issued our determination....it's in there, I promise.  Sometimes when we don't believe that it is there for a short season, we just have to fake it until you make it.  It's there!  Determination is in you!  ; ) You just keep putting one foot in front of the other and before you know it, this small cloud will pass and you will feel it shining out from inside of you.  Stick with us Baby!  You are going to make some really awesome things happen.  ; )  
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748902 tn?1286034758
ooh lori you cant quit now, i know its tough, if it was easy there would be no large people,look at all the hard work you have done,i would change the way you eat, you know the things you need to eat more of, and the things to limit how much you have, any diet that denies you food can only ever last for a short time, you need to go for a life style change not a quick fix, heres a poem that might help

"When Things Go Wrong"

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but do not quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.

Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.
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362249 tn?1441315018
I have been there lately the scale has not budged in a few wks and i felt like doing nothing but i forced myself to keep exercising and keep moving! Yesterday i tested the scale and it moved so i think im gonna have a good # this week!! You just have to keep trying and things will work out!! Dont give up on the baby thing either i know thats a hard one  boy do i ever 7 yrs of nothing and i have been ready to punch a wall more than once let me tell you but if we want it bad enough we cant give up!!
Oh watch for Twehner she's gonna come and make you do crunches now LOL!! i'm JK but she will give you that kick if you need it!! Right Twehner?
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Avatar universal
Ohh Lori you just need to stay strong!!!! Don't give up now, look how far you have come already. Maybe you should try a new diet. It seems you were doing better off the low carb diet. Maybe try something different. Low carb diets are hard to follow, because you can't have what you want. Hang in there sweetie!!!! I'm always around if you wanna talk.
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