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I lied about how many times i have had sex and now he broke up with me
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I am deeply in love with him. Before my boyfriend i had an ex that always wanted sex and took my virginity and i never wanted to have sex with my ex when me and him were together because i wasnt into sex at the time. I had sex with my ex 7 times all forced and he told me to suck him up but i only put my mouth on it and then told him "i dont like this i dont want to do it". But i didnt want to tell my boyfriend that because thats embarrassing and i didnt want him to feel like he had a used girl. The first time my boyfriend asked how many times i had sex with my ex i said 3 and no to giving head then the second time i said the same thing.. Then the third time i said 3 and yes to head but i just put my tounge on it and stopped and then yesterday my bestfriend mistakenly said something about my past to him and she said be had a look on his face like he was upset. He called me on my bestfriend phone and asked me again and i told him the truth. He got mad at me and told me he doesnt trust me anymore and that he doesnt want to be with me anymore. I cried and felt like **** because I didnt want him to think of me in that that type of way. I should have told him the first time he asked but i was scared because i found the one for me and i didnt want to ruin my chances with him. Later that night after the phone call he showed up to my house and told me he loves me because of all the moments we shared but he doesnt love me because he doesnt look at me the same anymore and he said that i was selfish for keeping it from him for so long he said i hurt him. I feel bad cause i messed up my relationship because i couldnt share my embarassing past with him. I went out with my ex 2 years before i started dating my boyfriend. I hurt myself because I hurt him..I messed up big time.
What do i do to help him forgive me?
How do i get him to trust me? Because that was the only secret i been hiding from him.
What do i do to help him forgive me?
How do i get him to trust me? Because that was the only secret i been hiding from him.
I'm so sorry about your ordeal. You just have to give it time ok? You're better off without him. In fact it's non of his or anyone's business about your sex life. If that bothered him so much, then it's he that has problems. In fact, he should be committed.
I never ask any lady how people she's been with in the past. I'm never concerned with that. Clean bill of health is all that matters.
You don't need this loser guy. He had insecurity issues.
I never ask any lady how people she's been with in the past. I'm never concerned with that. Clean bill of health is all that matters.
You don't need this loser guy. He had insecurity issues.
You guys sound young. I'm 28 and I lie about my encounters but I've learned not to give to much details because guys will use it against you.
He sounds controlling, what was his point in all this, I'm sure he has a part to
He sounds controlling, what was his point in all this, I'm sure he has a part to
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*I'm sure he has a past too.
Don't let any man make you feel embarrassed about yourself, don't lower your self esteem. We all live and learn. Keep your head up.
Don't let any man make you feel embarrassed about yourself, don't lower your self esteem. We all live and learn. Keep your head up.
It sounds to me like he was bullying you into revealing way too many details about your sexual past, which by the way is none if his business. This whole thing is all HIS fault because HE is the one who kept harassing you to give up more and more details and then he has the nerve to judge you and get mad at you about stuff that happened long before you even knew he existed!?!? Seriously, this guy is a jerk and a loser and he did you a huge favor by breaking up with you. Because no self respecting woman would ever want to be in a relationship with a control freak manipulator like him!
Be glad that this relationship didn't drag on for much longer because I can tell that he has already worn down your self esteem way too much and any longer with him may have destroyed it completely. Go and spend some time enjoying your friends and family and don't worry about guys for a while. You need a long break to regain your confidence and your self esteem.
Be glad that this relationship didn't drag on for much longer because I can tell that he has already worn down your self esteem way too much and any longer with him may have destroyed it completely. Go and spend some time enjoying your friends and family and don't worry about guys for a while. You need a long break to regain your confidence and your self esteem.
Once you hide something, if the person is suspicious and begins asking and you keep hiding it and then finally confess, what is likely to happen is that he will think you hide other things from him and will have trouble trusting you in general.
It's too bad he asked you your history in the first place, it makes it seem like he is insecure (or you are both very young).
You could tell him this was all unwilling activity and he is the one you love, possibly he'll go for it. But otherwise, I think you will have to take this as a lesson learned.
The moment any boyfriend of mine wanted to know my sexual history in a way that made it seem he was going to judge me negatively, that was the end of it for me, because he didn't have the right to judge me. But you obviously think he did have the right; you didn't push back at the time. Unfortunately, lying was not the way to handle it.
If he can't get over it, I'm afraid this might be it for you as a couple.
It's too bad he asked you your history in the first place, it makes it seem like he is insecure (or you are both very young).
You could tell him this was all unwilling activity and he is the one you love, possibly he'll go for it. But otherwise, I think you will have to take this as a lesson learned.
The moment any boyfriend of mine wanted to know my sexual history in a way that made it seem he was going to judge me negatively, that was the end of it for me, because he didn't have the right to judge me. But you obviously think he did have the right; you didn't push back at the time. Unfortunately, lying was not the way to handle it.
If he can't get over it, I'm afraid this might be it for you as a couple.
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