When people walk away from your life, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who "wants out" of your life. It doesn't mean they're bad people; it just means that their part in your life is over. So, in answer to your question, "... what does getting over and moving on mean???" ... it means not looking back and dwelling on the past... it means accepting that there are things that cannot be.
Most of your adult life spent with one person is a hard thing to do if you had nothing to do with the breakup. It sounds like you took your vows and meant them and cannot mentally let go. You have no choice but to do so as it sounds like as far as your ex is concerned, she is done and has moved on. It is realizing that you are done with that part of your life and nothing is going to change that. You must find a new life that makes you happy. If you find someone that makes you happy again, you will find yourself letting go of the past. Your serious relationship is not as serious as you think it is or you would have let go by now. My heart goes out to you and it may be a good idea to relocate in order to move on.
I am Not over my Divorce now 7 years ago I still love my Xwife When people say MOVE on I seriously want to punch them What does that mean . I For one do not know and can only ofer you support and hope you find your answer . I am the type of peson Who can take pain and Blow it of And IVe had far more than I wish on my worst enemy. BUt This pain For me is beyond My ability to Get over. Perhaps knowing another is Like You Helps and your not alone . I Want to pack up my Life and rturn to the UK IN a Hope That wil place so much distance but Who am I kidding the distance is from one braincell to the next . and I know I would miss my Grand kids
MY daughter said you are better off alone Dad MUM is OFF the wall Mentally . Is that my fault . I dont know I am told NO . But Not seeing her since tht day . I cant realy tell . What goes through your mind Is devastating to You . Take Care Peter 63
Wow this a very different posting for me. I feel I have to let people know you can get over a long relationship. I did retire at the beginning of the summer, I made a decision I was going to better myself, physically and mentally. I have gone to the gym 5 days a week, since I have retired. I make an honest effort to eat healthy. I have been taking a online course just to open my eyes. When you feel good about your self, you have confidence in your self.
Also I have been able to see with my grandchildren, I called my daughter every week and she finally answered the phone, I have seen and talked to my ex wife and now I see her as just a person.
I now know that I'm very fortunate, I know I have the support of my GF and starting to reallize 30 years in a relatioship was not a waste.
It is like the sun has come out. I worked as a young adult never had a chance to enjoy life at that age. I feel like I have been given a chance to make it up on this end.
God Bless to everone
...be blessed and good luck!