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struggling over a breakup

i have just recently broken up for the second time with him. we have been together for 1,5 year. last year we argue a lot we just hurt each other most of the time then we broke up. after living our lives seperately in our own country for 6 months afterwards, we decided to try again one more time. then i flew to his country and stayed there for 2 months, during those times he promises he is willing to come to my country and talk to my family to marry me so we can be together (i am a moslem and i needed to be married to be with someone). but after i flew back for one week, he said he wanted to break up beacuse he feels so much pressured with his financial situation and what he needed to do to be with me.

did he planned all this? did he knew he wasnt gonna come in the first place? did he just gave me empty promises just to have me for some time? i really dont know what to do. i know everytime we argue i had always lose control over my anger and thats one of the reason was, he said.

when he called me to break up, he said he loves me so much and cried his eyes out because he didnt know what to do. i told him he can take as much time as he did and i will just be waiting for him over here. is that the right thing to do? shouldnt i say otherwise? what should i do? please help
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I am so sorry!  It sounds like it has been hard.  Here is my opinion, and it is ONLY my opinion so take it for what it is worth knowing I'm on the outside looking in.  I would move on.  I don't think he was being shifty when he invited you out.  He may have genuinely thought it would work out.  But during that 2 month time, he perhaps noticed things like the anger issues you may have and the arguing and that his financial situation isn't where he wants it to be before marriage so he isn't 'ready', etc. and had second thoughts.  But really DOES love you.  I broke it off with someone I loved once because I deep down knew that something just wasn't right.  It's hard because you really care for that person but you also are trying to look at the big picture.  He's trying to tell you that he doesn't want to make this work.  I would give up on this.  You want someone that is totally sure.  Try not to look at it as wasted time as you learned a lot from this relationship.  Take all that knowledge to your next relationship.  

I know this is easier said than done as you've invested a lot of emotion and time into this. But two break ups down, I'd just try to let this go so you can waste no more time in finding the 'right' person.  good luck
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