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Is a break good in a relationship?

My boyfriend of 2 yrs have been fighting a lot and has stemmed, at least for me, from resentment. He has a testicular mass or issue that causes him phy pain but it’s been going on for a year and hasn’t sought ways to fix it. He keeps telling me he had a MRI and it’s benign but he doesn’t like to talk to me about it when I try to ask him. He continues to say “things aren’t working down there”. I feel he hasn’t been straight with me and gets defensive when I tell him this. He says that he may have to have it cut open to fix. I’ve tried to be understanding and sought other ways to form a connection. It works only half the time as I miss his physical touch. As a result of not having any form of physical intimacy not even kissing me, it’s caused a riff in our relationship and it’s when I drink that the resentment starts to arise and we get into heated fights over stupid things. He has above all else some anxiety issues and refuses to seek guidance since he said he’s had it his whole life and medications don’t do anything for him. I’ve been patient and stood by him through some of his tough times but bc my needs aren’t getting fulfilled, I told him things needed to change. He states that we have differing styles of communication which may be true but isn’t the reason we continue to fight. He and I had no solution so we both agreed to take a break and let things breathe and see where we’re at. No timeline no parameters just take a break. I don’t know what to do as I’m so distraught over this. I’m a happy positive person for most part so I know I’ll eventually get over it. But I’m really saddened by this.  My question is has anyone had a sexless relationship and similar to what I’m going through. I’m racking my brain trying to figure out how to deal with all of this. Please help!
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That's rough.  Here is my honest opinion.  He's a boyfriend and not a husband. And if you don't want a sexless relationship, then I'd take this break, reevaluate and consider that this is not a match made in heaven.  Sex isn't as important to him. And that all physical activity, not just intercourse, has stopped, you two are like friends.  We date to figure out who we should be with long term.  Sometimes we can have a great person but not everything is there that we need for a long term, forever relationship.  We are supposed to acknowledge this, say I love you but this isn't working, and move on to find a better match we have a better chance of being more fulfilled and happy with.

There is someone out there that you'll fight less with, have more intimacy with and a better chance at a happy life with.  It's hard because it is a risk leaving someone we care about and who has 'some' of the things we like. But don't settle.  Take some time, regroup and then change this up.  Move on for your own future happiness.  hugs
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