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Broken heart

3 days ago I was in the yard playing with my three dogs and I ran in the house to get phone and the one dog left my yard and got hit by car and died. My heart along with my other dogs is completely crushed. I feel so bad. I took my best friend along with theirs away.  I'm playing with the other two dogs every chance I get,feeding them more snacks then ever just trying to make them feel better. But on the other hand while I'm doing that at some point I just completely loose it.  Oh my gosh I am devastated I wanna know how to make my other dogs and myself feel better. Her name was grace. She is my heart,  
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675347 tn?1365460645
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I am terribly sorry this happened to your Grace. I know it's easy of me to say this, but it is true...that accidents happen. That we can't be in control of every situation. Sometimes, events conspire to come together, and a thing we do can have the most deadful consequences, but if we'd done that very same thing the day before, nothing bad would have happened at all.
The driver passing just at that very moment....you don't know, maybe THEY were distracted by something right at the very second Grace ran out. Maybe somene walked by with a dog, and it made Grace run out....or she saw something else....all at the very moment the phone rang, and the driver passed.
Please don't beat yourself up about this. You really were not to know this was going to happen. And on another day -at another moment even- it might not have happened.

I know, you will feel very very sad.
The best thing you can do for the other dogs is try as best you can, to keep all their routines going on as normal, so that although they will miss Grace, their world won't fall apart. Those things mean a lot to a dog -the structure of their lives has to be something they can trust and rely on. I think dogs get scared and nervous when the basic structure of their living and habits start to fall apart.

I wish you well, and am very sorry this accident happened.
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441382 tn?1452810569
I truly don't know what to say that could even come close to making you feel better.  You poor thing!  PLEASE don't beat yourself up over this!  Obviously you would never intentionally do anything to endanger your dogs, it is very apparent how you feel about them!

I know that is small comfort to you right now, but I am a firm believer that when it is your time, then it's your time.  Where you are or what you are doing will have no bearing on that.  Chances are it happened so quickly that even if you had been outside you would not have been able to stop it.  This was not your fault and don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise.  If you find yourself discussing it with one of those people who just don't get it, don't be afraid to tell them just that - "You just don't get it.  With all respect, I can't discuss this with you."  They'll just have to understand or it's too bad for them.

Keep all of your wonderful memories of Grace in your heart and she'll never be away from you.  It will get easier with time.  Dote on your other dogs, play with them, groom them and love them, and you will all help each other to get through this.  My most sincere condolences to you.  You are in my thoughts.

Ghilly
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Thank u for your advice. I know by doing those things def will take our minds away from the sorrow. I guess in time things shall get better. I feel sooooo guilty for letting this happen. I know I should of had them on chain. My husband would always say one of these days their gonna run and get hit and I never listened. Well here we are.I guess we learn by our mistakes but this is def not something I wanted to learn the hard way. I have lots of friends/coworkers but you know some of them just don't get it.well thank you for your advice .
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1697573 tn?1331771820
I Have A Dog Named Grace And She IS My Heart And World I Love Her EveryDay And When I Loose Her I Will Be Even More Depressed. All You Really Need TO Do Is Show Grace That You Will Remember Her Everyday And Night And Going OUt With Friends Can Help But Mostly Just Talk It Out That Always Helps Me. For YOur Dogs I Think YOu Should Take Them Out To A Dog Park Or Something LIke That Let Them Meet Other Dogs To Help Heal Their Broken-Heart.
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