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1462791 tn?1287235055

This not a ? but just some sadness

Today is very sad day for me I just had to put my Dog Tina to sleep. I feel like I lost my heart. I'm hurting so much. How can I go on with anyother dog. My roomate thinks I should go and get another dog right away, but I cann't I just think she would be so mad she hating sharing me with anyone or any other pet like my cat. She would just push her way though and that would be the end of petting or hugging anything.
Sorry all but it jsut so hard!!!!!
I LOVE YOU MY TINA and MISS YOU
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i'm so sorry, i had the same problem, my baby, was sick, she had cancer, and i put her to sleep, omg i'm sorry nena, please i'm sorry, i love uuuu
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212161 tn?1599427282
i so understand your heart. i also put a fur-baby down 2 years ago . had him 17 years a long time to love him and thanhes fgone. my heart was took out stomped on and in tiny pieces. foe two weeks i walked around my house so lonley and sad, i thought i would see him walk by, i missed him so much. i have so much love for fur-babies so i went on net found me a baby girl and flew her in. have had her for 2 years now and shes our angel, shes spoiled rotton just like he was. i felt bad loving her to start thinking i was just forgetting him and that he would be sad, but thats not true, i will never forget my sweet baby boy and he is happy that another fur-baby is in a great home with lots love just like he had, one less baby on street or in a bad home. so plz if you can give it sometime, you have a lot of love that some sweet baby out there needs.
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82861 tn?1333453911
I'm so sorry for your loss.  I reacted exactly like you are when we had to put my first dog to sleep.  Couldn't stop crying - even at work.  People looked at me like I was crazy for mourning "just a dog" so badly.  My dog helped me even after he was gone.  After two weeks of non-stop waterworks, I went to see my doctor and got on the antidepressants I should have been on twenty years ago.  My doc completely understood what I was going through being a critter person himself.  The pills made a tremendous difference and I was able to work through my grief instead of being stuck in it - if that makes any sense.

Try to remember that your friend will ALWAYS have a special place in your heart.  Remember that there were far more good times than bad times.  We all hate it that we must outlive our pets, but that's what makes us special people.  We have enough love in our hearts to make them such important parts of our lives even if it's only for a short time.  

Don't even think about getting another dog until you've worked through your grief.  It's not fair to you and it's not fair to the new dog if you take one in too soon.  There will come a time when you're ready for a new companion, and that will happen in it's own good time.  You'll know when you're ready.  Right now, focus on all the good things about Tina, and cry all you want.  You'll probably find that you waffle back and forth from good days to not-so-good days, and that's just the way grief works.  We've all been in your shoes, so if you need permission to scream and cry - you got it!  :-)
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1462791 tn?1287235055
I take pillsss for everything thanks for the info.
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1462810 tn?1327360449
Believe me, I understand about the cost of herbs.  There is a nutritive food substance found in many foods that has a calming effect - tryptophan.  I found this information at the indicated websites:  

"There are a wide range of foods that are excellent sources of tryptophan, with turkey being the most well known source. Other foods high in tryptophan include: chicken, beef, brown rice, nuts, fish, milk, eggs, cheese, fruit, and vegetables."
from http://www.nutritional-supplements-health-guide.com/sources-of-tryptophan.html

"Using foods that contain more carbohydrates is a better way to increase your tryptophan absorption and aid in the production of serotonin, which helps to relax the body and combat sleep problems.

1.Beans
2.Whole grains, including rice
3.Lentils
4.Chickpeas
5.Hazelnuts
6.Peanuts
7.Eggs
8.Sunflower seeds
9.Sesame seeds
10.Miso (fermented soy beans)
11.Raw dairy products (if you can tolerate dairy)
Don't forget you're supposed combine these with a carbohydrate rich food..."
from http://veganbits.com/9-vegan-foods-to-help-you-sleep/

Hope this helps.  
Blessings,
Katrinika
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1388999 tn?1370042814
Tina has gone now think how she would feel seeing you so sad.She would say I am gone! I am sad for you, please give another dog the love you gave me as I cannot be there to look after you.

Please open your heart to some poor unloved little scrap who deserves to be loved.
Start looking you will know which one is right for you.So many on the net take your time......and know Tina is looking over your shoulder helping you decide.

I know there will never be another Tina..... but some other little angel that will find a place in a different part of your heart and bring some of the joy that you had with her.

This I can guarentee. sincerely Joan.
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1462791 tn?1287235055
I’m sorry for your loss!! I have give thought to getting another dog but right now I don’t think it’s a good time for me to do so. I still am getting over Tina and I still crying each day and night for her still. I think I need some time to get over her. Not that I ever really will but right now it just hard I would feel like I am cheating on her. One day I will get another fur baby but for now I just need time.

Katrinika
I don’t have money like that to spend on herb meds
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Avatar universal
I am very sympathetic towards your loss. I lost my dog comet back in march , he was my dog when i was little and I am only 22 now. I stole him back from my moms ex bf who was a very nasty man. He beat him and starved him out back of his house, I nursed him back to health after years of trying to get him back I finally just took it into my own hands. I had him for a year and 3 months after taking him he went blind but was still a great dog. He ended up dying very fast or fading away and I took him to the vet and the vet pretty much told me he was suffering. it happened over night literally. Dr. Glickstein told me He was probably holding on for me and that he realized what a good chance he had at a second life. The dr paid for the entire procedure to put him down with my reluctancy I decided I wanted to wait a few days and see if he got better. He unfortionatley did not get better but worse. I finally decided to call the vet , he came to my house and we put him down. It was the saddest day of my life and I never cried harder/more ever. he was a great dog who went through a lot. But the vet assured me I gave him the best life possible.. which i did. I tried for a long time with the aspca to get him back but nothing, even went to the police. I had to take him back and give him the ending to his life that he deserved. He was a great dog and I miss him every day. He got my dads dog pregnant without us knowing and she had his puppies. I really wanted one but was soo overwhelmed with sadness I never asked my dad for one. My sister took two, without me knowing and 2 weeks after he was put down I got Harley. She is a wonderful dog  but not exactly liek my buddy comet. I love her in a different way but still the same she makes me smile and greats me when I come home. keep your head up and remember, Dogs are her for a short time and sometimes they teach us what love really is. They have no judgment, I am sure your dog was your buddy too and  will never be out of your heart. But you should move on and give another pet your love.  Tina knew you loved her and you should take the affection she gave you as her love towards you. Return it to a dog thats sitting alone in a shelter somewhere. They will give you just as much love as Tina , No dog will ever be exactly like her but it does help you move on from a loss to have another to give your time and attention to. Hope this helps :( sorry for your loss
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1462810 tn?1327360449
When we cry, it's said we are distressed... it's called dis-stress because that's what our bodies are designed to do to unleash the otherwise internalized (and very unhealthy) effects of stress - like grief and loss.  Check with your local health food store - look for one or a combination of: Kava Kava, Valerian, Chamomile, Fennel seed, Hops, Lavender flowers, Lemon Balm, Linden flowers, Passionflower, Peppermint, Siberian ginseng (not actually a ginseng), Skullcap, Aniseed and/or Dill.  These are soothing and will help to make the necessary crying easier to bear while you go through the grief process.  God bless.  
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1462791 tn?1287235055
Thanks so much for your words. It means alot to me!!! I have no other talk to about Tina my roommate is kinda like whatever but I just keep crying and crying cannt sleep or eat. It just really hard right now.
Thank you all
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1436598 tn?1332896533
I am so sorry for your loss. It is so awful when we have to say goodbye to our beloved companions.  Please take care.
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Avatar universal
I had to put down my first dog about a year and a half ago. It was hard he had cancer and in someways I knew the pain he felt was gone and a blessing. I also had two other dogs to give me comfort but it still was not "him". I was not going to do it, but I did go get a puppy a few months later and really glad I did. I will tell you for over a year I told my other dog good night and that I loved him. He was such a sweet boy, never harmed any animal but I also knew that he would want me to share my love that I had for him with another dog.
Right now, you do need to grieve. It does not seem natural that our pets don't live long, but they give us SO much while they are here. ((hugs)).  
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675347 tn?1365460645
COMMUNITY LEADER
That's hard. You have only just lost your Lady, and now Tina as well. There never is a right time, but two in such a short space of time is very difficult.
It's true, what Misfits4Me said about your cat. He/she will be missing Tina too. (and Lady no doubt) so give him extra cuddles and keep an eye on him, because animals grieve too.
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1462810 tn?1327360449
A piece of our hearts go with them.  But I am so glad to have experienced Contessa's and Socksie's and Lady's love and devotion, the pain of missing them is a tribute to what a really wonderful dogs they were.  Contessa, gone 46 years - Socksie, gone 42 years - Lady, gone 2 months.  
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We put our dog to sleep in February, and it is still painful to remember, but unfortunately there sometimes is no choice.  Don't rush into getting another dog if it will make you feel guilty, like ginger899 said, grieve over Tina first.  When your ready, please go to a shelter and adopt a dog, there are so many of them there waiting to have a life as good as Tina had.
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462827 tn?1333168952
I also, know the hurt is awful.....It will get easier with time....Never gone, just easier.....
Please remember that your cat is grieving, too.  Give him/her extra attention & love....It will help heal you both......

With time, you will be able to open your heart to another furkid....Maybe soon, maybe somewhere down the line.....Odd things happen sometimes that we don't expect....I feel that there is always a reason behind them....

I'm sorry for your heartache, your in my thoughts & prayers.......Karla
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675347 tn?1365460645
COMMUNITY LEADER
It is definitely the saddest thing when your dog dies. I do know.
Whatever anyone else says, you have to go through this your own way and in your own time. You have to grieve. That is quite natural.
I had a dog I loved well, (11 years ago now) and when my husband died he was the closest family member I had at the time. But only a year after that he had to be put to sleep. I grieved in my own way. I got on with my life but tended his grave every day, brought crystals and put plants on that grave, making it beautiful. I did not want to get another dog, no matter what anyone else said I should do. And I didn't. I lived on my own.
Time passed. I made friends with every dog I met! My dog's little spirit seemed to live on inside me, and brought me close to dogs generally. I began to understand them better.

Then over 2 years later, another dog came into my life. I didn't go "out of my way" to acquire her. It was just by an odd set of circumstances that she came to live with me. I have not looked back. She has brought me much joy, and friendship.

But right now you can't think about the future. All you can feel is the present. Just grieve, and remember her with all the love you have. Get all Tina's photos out. Put them up on the walls! If she has a grave, decorate it. Write things about her....you know what I mean.
God bless. I am sorry
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Im sorry to hear about your dog.
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