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Co-Sleeping into adulthood

Hi all,

I really just needed some opinions, my sister has Down syndrome and is 20 years old. She still sleeps in my mom’s bed and my mom sleeps completely nude next to her.(mom is the one nude)

I mentioned this was weird but was told because I’m a guy it’s not the same and I should not view it as odd.

Just looking for some opinions on the matter and if and how I could voice concerns?
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Ya, it is weird that your mom chooses to sleep nude with her 20 year old daughter.  Even with down syndrome, people deserve respect and privacy. And they can go on to have a productive life.  Are there any other caregiver's in the picture?  And guess what . . . what your mom needs to be considering is that your sister's care will eventually go to someone else which is probably you.

I have a good friend dealing with this now.  Her father has cancer and her mother is aging all of a sudden at a very rapid rate.  Her brother has cognitive deficits due to severe autism.  She is being named his guardian this month due to the health concerns of her parents who had otherwise been doing the job.  I'd talk to your mom about this first.  What are her long range plans for your sister. If it involves depending on you down the road, you are in a better position to say that's not a healthy situation.  

Voice your concerns carefully.  But yes, voice them.
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That really is weird. Is it still going on?
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