Hi Sam0000,
Some of the mom's here can probably better advise you than I can, since our son is still only 8.5 months old, however - I am the coordinator of a special needs parent/child play group, and I advocate for Ds, (and a full time police officer).
I was curious though, do you have a hired advocate that can help you out with your son's school? Someone independent that will look out for your son's interests and needs and is outside of your family - to help support you? We have those types of advocacy services here in Canada, I am not sure where you are.
Please let us know!
Sandi (Dragon1973)
Down syndrome Group Founder/Moderator
Hi
I have an 8 year old boy with Downs. We went through a similar situation when he was in Kindergarten. The teacher only had negative things to say in his notebook. I visited the school often to see if I could detect anything going on that might be triggering this so called negative behavior. I found it was the teacher, the way he handled the classroom, the activities and his whole outlook. It wasn't just my child that was exhibiting negative behavior but the entire classroom. The teacher had no control, didn't interact with the children, thought the whole idea of teaching was to put them around tables and do work sheets all day long, no hands on activities, nothing to manipulate to go with the work sheets to give them purpose. When I finally confronted him on his teaching methods I was then labeled a "problem parent". I told him and the entire administration that I would be a "problem parent" for the rest of my life if that's what it took for my child to get a proper education. I found that a lot of my child's behavior was due to the fact he was board, frustrated and continually told he was being bad.
Ask to meet with the teacher on their planning period or after school and talk to them about the notebook and ask what is going on at the time of the negative behavior. Is it the fact they are asking your daughter to do something that 1) she doesn't want to do or 2) she doesn't understand what they want from her, 3) things might be getting more difficult for her and she doesn't know how to tell them. See if you can pin point exactly what is happening and the time. Take ample notes of the conversations. Once you figure out what is going on at the time of the negative behavior try to come up with solutions for the child and the teacher.
Maybe the teacher does not realize when she is writing in the notebook how negative she is sounding and once you point that out to her she will be more aware of what she is saying and how she is saying it.
If your meeting with the teacher does not resolve the issues then call an ARC meeting (IEP meeting) and take your notes from the meeting with the teacher and address the issues there. Based on one of your comments I am to assume that this is not a public school? Does your child get therapies (speech, OT, PT) at this school? are the therapists seeing any of the behaviors that the teacher is seeing? If not they will be a real asset in helping you find out why.
It may be that the school is at a level where they don't know what to do with her next. They may be as frustrated as she is and you may need to help them figure out the best ways to teacher her.
You are going to have to fight for your child, no one else is going to do it for her. You will be her strongest advocate and never back down because you think that is what the school wants. Always do what is the best for her, not whats best for the school.
feel free to email me off the forum
Hi!
I'm Cindie and I'm 23 and have a 19 month old son with DS. Does your daughter have an IEP (individualized education plan)? Is she in mainstream classes or does she have special education classes?
You need to have a meeting with her teachers and have them specifically go over any issues they feel need to be adressed.
Then address them. If you think they are trying to make it seem she is worse than is the actual case tell them so.