im so sorry to hear you had such a bad experience. when we had our tour of the maternity floor and nicu, the nurses are just fabulous!! i feel very relaxed to be in their care. several of the nurses are also lactation consults, and that made me so happy since im a breastfeeding mama.
im sure i will have a breakdown moment of tears, happy or sad. to do that without strangers will be nice. plus you know that gas you get after your c? haha say no more!!
Pertykitty~ I'm like Sandi (dragon) I had to stay a total of 4 days and was on a Dilaudid pump for a night due to excruciating back pain along w/my csection. my first night was tough because I was in a room by myself with Mason and the nurse did NOT want to help. he started choking on some mucus and I had to get up (about 8 hrs after my csection w/a foley cath in my bladder) and grab the suction bulb and suction him out. it hurt so badly. I wish my nurse was willing to help more but nope. they don't have a nursery anymore there and keep the babies in the mom's room and will only take baby for a feeding that's it. I too was able to cry without disturbing anyone else.
That's crazy!! Why would anyone make you think you were hiding?? That's not the reason at all like have 2 kids said. It was for bonding, peace and quiet, having your family close, and not disturbing anyone else! Some people I suppose have some silly ideas... Well, like I said, I loved having a room all to our selves, I didn't have to worry when I had family and friends coming to visit, and my Hubby stayed with me in my room all 5 days. He used the shower in my room, and slept on the pull out couch/bed. I had a bad recovery with my C-section due to some excruciating sciatic pain, so I had to stay an extra 3 days because my back nerves wouldn't allow me to walk. This was an extra bonus to having a private room, I could cry and sort of scream in pain and not worry about disturbing anyone sleeping next to me.
Sandi :)
i suppose different people view having a child with down syndrome differently. i havent had her yet so i can just go by what i feel at this point. i suppose some feel as though if they do any of those things, maybe they feel guilt i dont know. im so tired today, im crabby, and i worked my butt off. can you imagine sharing a room with that after having just had a baby? haha dont think too many would want to share with me hehe
I never once thought you or anyone else would want a private room to "hide" your baby. I wanted a private room when I had both of my kids for the same reasons you stated.
i went on a tour of the maternity floor and the nicu (was fantastic should we need it!) and my dr will get me a private room. if that didnt happen, i can pay a small fee per day to have one. i know i will do that, my dh can stay with me and my other kids can come visit me often as well.
on a site i go to some of the other moms were so rude for me wanting a private room. they said i shouldnt hide my baby away and i should treat her as any other child. well i have 2 kids and i can say from experience that a private room is not for that, its to share time with my family and not be disturbed by another person and their noise! to have a private bathroom and to not feel i have to be quiet when im pumping during the night (if we have feeding issues)
im so glad you guys have all been so helpful and sweet. i am proud of my dd already and i cant imagine loving a different baby more!!
I did, my hospital gave me the option of having a private room as long as they had the room for us. It was really nice because I also opted for the in room care for our son - so everything that they did (minus the head ultrasound) was done in front of me. It was so much easier to breastfeed, and do whatever I needed to do, without bothering someone near me.
I certainly recommend getting one if you can. I think it makes a world of difference, especially if you are sleep deprived!
Sandi
no my son TJ was in the NICU so I didn't have a private room. however my almost 4 month old Mason was in my room and we had a private room. :) I think it all depends on the availability at your particular hospital. some hospitals are just more crowded than others.