Erectile dysfunction or not

[Jften]

I'm 21 years old and a senior in college. I haven't had sex since highschool. I've been in many many chances to have sex but I haven't been able to get hard. Granted I've been hammered drunk each time. But it's starting to scare me. In highschool I had trouble with it but as long as I got started having sex I got hard. What happens to me each time is that I'm almost at the point of fully erect then a lot of Precum comes out and then I lose my erection completely and when I lose it I can't get another. Without oral sex of course. The girl I'm seeing doesn't do oral. So I'm really worried about this. I'm also not sure if this is real or in my head. My ex gf and I would have foreplay last almost an hour and I'd have an erection for 10-15 minutes of it. So getting a hard on after that became difficult and a lot of it has scared me out of sexual situations for the future. I do get morning wood not every morning but probably 3 out of 7 days of the week. Maybe more. I don't really notice cuz if I get one I go back to sleep till it's gone so I can pee. I also am fully erect when masturbating. But after a night of drinking Saturday I showered with this girl the next morning and I had nothing. Literally nothing. Is it the precum that is causing me to lose my erection? And if so how to do I stop it? And also could this all be in my head? (All my sexual encounters with my ex gf have been sober) and I'm also fully erect for oral sex regardless of precum or not (unless intoxicated)

[JacquiOlliver]

Arynne has some good advice for you. This is because your conscious mind can only focus on one task at a time - and if you are wondering how long your penis is going to stay hard, then you are no longer focused on the activities which will naturally make you hard!

It is common for a man to lose erection hardness while he is giving foreplay to his partner. This is because when you are focused on the 'mechanics' of your fingers and tongue moving to pleasure your partner, you cannot simultaneously be enjoying the feelings in your penis (which is one of the things which makes you hard).

[AndRynne]

I think a lot of your difficulties  may be arising from performance anxiety or simply watching yourself to see if you get an erection or not. This scrambles the subconscious messages trying to communicate with your penis. If you take intercourse off the menu for a while and when you have an erection let your girlfriend come on top and do all the work for you while you just lie there and do nothing. No performance on anxiety.