Hi Hank.
I can't tell you how to change your feelings, but if you sincerely want to begin to relate to real women, I do have a few ideas.
There are obviously some very profound reasons for your discomfort and your avoidance of women. Only you can know what those are, and in order to achieve some insight, you'll need to see a counselor who is trained to help people with sexual concerns.
After you gain insight into your feelings, the next step is to learn how to socially and sexually interact with women.
There is an option to work with a surrogate partner in addition to a counselor. Surrogates work in conjunction with a counselor, much like a swimming coach would work with a therapist who's helping someone who has a fear of the water. Once the therapist helps the person get over their fear, the coach takes over to actually teach the person to swim.
Surrogate partners can help you become comfortable, confident and knowledgable. I have seen many very shy men blossom after consulting with a surrogate partner. This might be a helpful option for you to consider. Good luck Hank. Dr. J
Thank you very much Dr. J I appreciate it!
Yes, I'll send info to your inbox as soon as I have something concrete to tell you. Am checking with resources. Dr. J
Thank You Dr. J... I am not sure how to receive personal messages here. If you want you can email the info to ***@****
Here I checked my inbox but not sure if thats the right area
I will send you a personal message with information. Dr. J
Hi Dr J, Thank you very much for your response... I think the Surrogate partner thing is something that could really help me... I am very excited, didn't know something like that existed. My only question is how to I find a good place? I live in north new jersey/ nyc area... do you know of any places in this area that are good?
Not sure what your thoughts are about this but, maybe, you should consider paying a "professional". They don't care if you perform or not, and if you find someone who is willing to work with you, to help you get over your fears, and such, maybe this is just the cure.
Remember they (prostitutes) are getting paid either way. And who better to help you than someone who has been around the "block" a few times?
Good luck and don't hide away your whole life, worrying about how you might "perform" , else you will NEVER live your life.