My husband recently got help for ED. Before this our sex life was nonexistent. I never initiated because if I did, it usually ended with him ejaculating quickly or him going soft. I have always had a higher sex drive than him. I have suppressed my own needs for so long that after him seeking help, I was excited to get back into things. I initiate almost every time and even with the meds, he will go soft or he pull out and be "done". By done I mean that we will be going at it and he will just pull out and not finish. I will not either. He will just turn over or lay down and that is the end of that. He really likes oral, but what it comes down to is that I feel like a chore for him. He will not help me finish or be concerned that I haven't. I have brought it up and all it does is end in fighting and him getting defensive. I feel undesired, unwanted, annoying. I worry he is cheating. My inner alarms keep going off and I keep trying to figure out how to fix things. I am now fighting depression and have been having nightmares of finding him cheating.