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Hello, I am 21 year old female and me and my guy have been dating for around 4 months now. He has just turned 28 and everything is going fine in our relationship except for our sex life. He is still a virgin and he tells me all the time how sexy and beautiful i am and how much he wants to have sex, but when it comes time to do the deed, he either can't get up at all or can't get hard enough/ stay hard enough to have sexual intercourse. He used to masturbate 3 times a day but he has significantly cut down on this because of this problem. Also i have noticed that he is different from other guys that i have been with in that when he is stimulated he has a painful look on his face (is this just a weird "o" face?). He also showed me how he masturbates and it is different from other guys...he doesnt stroke himself until the very end, he only stimulates by playing with the shaft right below the head because he says thats where he is most sensitive. He also doesnt have very good self confidence and tells me that he doesnt deserve me. I have been supportive so far and he has looked into going to a psychologist but hasnt gone to see one yet. He wakes up with morning wood sometimes, but now its getting to the point where he doesnt want to be disappointed and thinks that he wont stay hard enough for intercourse. We are both getting really frustrated (him moreso) and im getting more hurt and its getting harder for me to understand what is going on. Can anyone help?
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1958787 tn?1325376291
he may have ED(erectile dyfunction) ask him to make an appointment and check this out and have him explain all  the symptoms
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1957825 tn?1325082807
hello dear,am 26,am having the same problem.though i dont have a girlfriend yet,but the doctor said it is pshycological...he will precribe a medicine for me in the next appointment ..but i have not gotten the money.am still a virgin male too..i have cut down on masturbation too.my sex drive is good....i get erection at will but cannot maintain it during sex...please i u get a solution write me.please stay with ur gye till he gets bether because he need u now most.tek kia.
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