The factor that contributes the MOST to the success of an IVF cycle is the quality of the egg. So, if you want to fast track to success, and are not terribly particular about DNA, you could go with donor eggs. You do have a chance with your own eggs, but it will be less likely to be successful--with a donor, you MAY qualify for the IVF share programs.
If you do go with donor eggs, remember there are fees involved with that--really good proven donors charge more, and you have to pay expenses too, as well as some legal fees. If you do go with a donor, you should absolutely go with someone under 30. I would suggest going with someone who has had previous success too. The advantage here, is that you may get MANY good embryos, so you may have some left to freeze for future pregnancies if you don't want an only child.
Also, having a baby with donor eggs doesn't prevent future pregnancies of your own. Honestly, I don't think most people care about the DNA once they hold that baby!
Good luck, and we'll have our daughters freeze their eggs!
I think you might want to try another RE. You are always intitled to a second opinon. Because what one Dr. wont do or willing to try another one is.