hi , thanks for taking the time to read this, a bit of history ... i have previously had 3 natural m/c´s and an ectopic 3 yrs ago what ruptured and had to be removed. i have had all my testing done and all came back normal ! i am now just recovering from another ectopic pregnancy and the doctors have said i cant have children naturally , the only way now is through ivf. i might to have the remaining tube removed next week. im just absolutly devastated. i never thought something so natural could be so hard. my husband and i have had 5 yrs of  grief after our losses. i know absolutly nothing about ivf and it scares me to death. im only 28. has anybody been through the same and if so , how have things turned out and how did u get through it , i just feel that the baby we have been longing for will never be here .... i want it so much , i ache , and long just for someone up there to give me a break. i cant see the light at the end of the tunnel any more. can any body help me ? thanks fo reading this :(
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1642420 tn?1301017756

First I want to say I'm so sorry for you loss.. I know how hard it is to lose a pregnancy and my heart goes out to you.

I do know about IVF. I have done it 3x and while it did not work for me, it might work for you. I am 42 and have had 8 losses. I think if i was your age I would go for IVF sooner rather than later, especially with the losses you have had.

Before you do it please check on the clinics statistics:


I would also get blood work done to rule out any blood clotting or immunilogical disorders and you should contact your insurance company and see if they will cover any of your blood work and treatments.

IVF can be very expensive but if your insurance doesn't cover it you can write off anything that is over 7.5 % of your annual income. The meds for IVF can also be very expensive and things can add up easily but I'm glad I did it (even without success).

Your doctor will be able to better explain all the details involved but don't be scared, it's really not as scary as you might think. Maybe checking some of the IVF boards might help you feel better.

Hope this helps.

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1640824 tn?1325888415
Hello i don't know anything about the ivf. Me and my husband have been trying for a year and seven months with no luck. I wish you the best of luck and ill be praying for you keep me posted!!
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hi, i don't know much about ivf, we conceived my dd naturally, now ttc again, but i think How To Get Pregnant would help you. It's by a well known fertility specialist and he explains it in detail, it's a cool process!
GL hun!
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