Annoyed

[trakennedy]

Is any one else annoyed by these ladies who already have kids and r bitching because they have problems having more? I'm just praying for one!!!!! so it's really f***ing annoying when I read about someone who Is like o Im having prouble with my third and fourth pregnant they should be happy for having any

[wanabb]

Amen mhv, Amen!

[JennyB0125]

I am trying for my 3rd child & want this pregnancy as much as the first 2.  This forum is for ALL women & men that are trying to conceive & maybe having problems doing that.  

My heart goes out to all that are having such a hard time conceiving & I wish all people who wanted to get pregnant could without any issues, unfortunately that is not how it is.  

I feel that expressing anger to those that already have children & want more is a healthy path. It does nothing but poison your own soul, it is one thing to ask for support & vent it is another to make others feel bad for wanting to add to their families.  

I want another child to give my husband the opportunity to experience having a pregnant wife & experience the birth of his child, & my children want another sibling.  My husband is not the bio dad to my kids but he is their dad in every other way.  How can it be wrong to want to bring a new family member in to tis world?

If you really feel that strongly about being in a forum that has ladies who already have children, maybe start a new one for 1st timers who have no children & are having fertility issues & and that way you wont feel so bad.

I hope you find the support you need, whether it be here or somewhere else.

I wish you all the best & I hope you get your BFP soon!  

Take care

[rmmoye]

Mhv U said it very well!!! WE are all here for each other and just need to support of others.

[adgal]

Sorry, that was meant to read sticky.  

[adgal]

I also went through an absolute nightmare to have my first child.  Just like so many of the other ladies here my heart was broken over and over again until finally, I got my miracle.  And I am grateful every single day of my life, and wish the same for every single women going through infertility.  With all my heart and soul I wish that.

Now I do want another, and am having the same problem again.  Yes, in some ways it's easier to deal with as I do have my miracle baby, but I can tell you that every single time I experience another loss, my heart breaks all over again.

The desire to have a child is so incredibly strong for so many of us.  Whether it's the first, third or 10th, infertility is never an easy thing to go through.  That's why forums like this are so incredibly important as we all need the support of others who truly understand.  Trak, I hope you do have your dream come true, and I can understand how you might feel.  But at the same time, the pain for those trying to have another can be just as deep as yours.  And regardless of who it is or how many children they want, I wish no one ever had to go through it.  All the best to you and I truly hope you are celebrating a sicky bfp soon!

[Emily_MHManager]

Hi Ladies -

Please remember that everyone here has different stories, different experiences, different dreams.  Different does not mean better or worse.  For someone who dreams of having a large family, it can be just as heartbreaking if that isn't happening as it is for a woman who just wants one and it isn't happening.

It's normal to be angry and hurt to see others who have achieved the dream you have yet to achieve, but we are here to support everyone, no matter the size of the dream.  We don't discount anyone's dream here.

Thanks,
Emily

[mhv]

We are here to support each other.  Not to be unkind to each other

[amy8702]

Who said they were on #3?

[mhv]

Do my eyes fill up with tears for me when I see someone else is pregnant? yes.  Does my heart hurt for me  when I see anyone post a bfp on here? Whether it be their 1st, 2nd, 3rd? yes.  Do I long to see that bfp that it seems everyone else gets?  Yes!  

But, do I EVER get sick of seeing the women on here getting bfp's? NO  Do I rejoice in every positive pregnancy test posted? YES!  Do I Ever get tired of seeing someone who has been trying to have whatever number child finally receive that blessing?  NO!!!  I actually get a huge sigh of relieve for them.  A smile comes over my face from ear to ear, and I am sincerely happy for each and every one of them.  Beyond happy for them!  Someone gets to leave this hell!  The hell we are all in together.  

I get what you are saying.  I am beyond sad for me, I am beyond sad of my husband.  I am beyond sad that our family isn't growing.  I won't lie... I cry for us.  

Never think that each woman on here hasn't cried tears of their own.  Many of us would not have to the strength to keep trying  for  #1 or 2 or 3 if it weren't for the support of the other women on this site.

[rmmoye]

trakennedy I think we have all felt your pain. YOu cant help the hurt u feel.
I think we all have those days were we hurt worse then others. I currently have no biological children but i do have two foster children that i am adopting.  THey are my boys and i would not trade them for anything in the world. I want more children and i want ot be able to have them and carry them. I want at least 4 children i would really love more like 7. I have two beautiful boys that unless u are told different u would think i gave birth to.

I would love to have one but really i want several. I am not going to stop trying after i have my first one. IF i have trouble haivng my send bio child then I will be on here for the support and i pray i get it.

I am sure these women are excited they have the children they have and greatful that God blessed them with them. I am also sure they pray for us because they cant imagine the hurt we are feeling longing for tha tfirst baby we carry to term. THey know the joys of feeling a little one move inside of them. THey have heard that first cry. We want that so bad and it is ok to say hey appericate what u have. I wish i could have at least that.  WE want that so bad!!! But for them they have that and they may want a boy to carry on the family name or a little girl that looks like her mommy. all of us want one of each.  Whos to say that that didnt struggle for several years to have the first one and get two little girls out of it that they love bery much but there husband is an only child and if they dont have a boy there family name dies out.

I will also tell u that some of these women dont annouce it but they are not doing ivf for them selves but for a friend or family member that is struggleing to have the first. All u know is their story because they dont want to tell aobut the family members life. They are doing an honorable thing and yes it may be there 3+pregnancy they are trying for but they are doing it to give someone else the baby of there dreams.

I hope this helps!!! SSBD!!!!

[MDGreaves]

It is frustrating. Sometimes I feel that way too.

[kamil119]

I don't agree, I struggled to get preggo with #2, just learned I'm preggo! But we were at a point when we considered IVF etc. I think you want each kid the same way, you have a certain image of what you want your family to look like. With me, the second was harder because I wanted for my daughter to have a sibling, so you do it for them as much as for you. After this, I definitely understand infertile people and what they have to go through much more.

[Azwoman]

I feel your pain. Yes Trakennedy, it is frustrating when women complain about not being able to conceive #3 or #4 when were still trying for number one.. I think infertility stings more for those of us who don't have any children. Wantingonemore, she was not directing her anger towards you in particular. Just chill out and try to understand her frustration.

[wantingonemore84]

*offer not other

[wantingonemore84]

Ok I think you are totally out of line, I'm trying for number 3 and am having problems and I think you are very rude and heartless. It would be like me saying, "well maybe your just not ment to have kids so give up trying", now thats rude, I would never say that to anyone! So maybe instead of putting others down to make your self feel better, take a look at yourself, we are all here to other advice and help not make others feel bad!!!!!!!