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1025640 tn?1251908316

Giving up!!!!!!!!

I'm sure I'm not the only one who felt like this.  I know I'm all woman but when ur unable to create life u feel like half a woman. The pain of dealing with monthly cycle for just about half your life and to never been pregnant or to give birth to a child it hurt. When u have some friends who u think shouldn't have children have 5-6 wishing one was your. I having been trying for the last 6 1/2 years. I first started with my ex-boyfriend and when it didn't happen I put it to the side. Decided to wait until I got married witch was not a bad thing. However my ex and I broke up and I found out he had a child on the way u talking about a hit below the belly. I cried for weeks it never hurt so bad to spend 41/2 yrs with someone and never get pregnant. Ok moving one then I ran into my high school sweet heart starting my life over after a year we got married. Then after a while that mother inside want to try again now almost 2 years later and after two failed IVF not sure how to feel. I mean I know how I feel a mix of everything watching your younger family member have children. I starting to feel less of a woman I know I'm not but I can't help but to feel help less.
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582963 tn?1483452520
congrats and goodluck!!
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652864 tn?1251750596
Yogi...so I wrote you yesterday as this is my 3rd IVF cycle..and guess what?  they transferred TWO beautiful Grade A blasts this morning and I have 2 more high quality blasts to freeze.  this has by far been my smoothest cycle and even the dr couldnt believe how much better my embryos looked this time.  Don't give up!!!  They were talking to me about using donor eggs because of how poor quality my embryos and eggs were and now look....4 perfect embabies.  just hang in there!!!
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631676 tn?1333718203
I was about to give up. But instead I have just "given in." So I am trying but I am not in a frantic pursuit. At least for now. It reduces the stress. But I still lean on this forum, I just do not post questions about my symptoms and statistics and chances anymore. So stick around and just be here with the rest of us with no end game in  mind. Good luck.
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296340 tn?1336164001
it's okay to take a break.. When you try too hard, things never turn out the way you want... when you relax and take a break, then everything should be in order.. Good luck to you and you will be in my prayer.
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864502 tn?1382640699
Me too;-) You are in my prayers and thoughts.....
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582963 tn?1483452520
I can tell you are very depressed and emotionally drained right now.  Sometimes when you stop for a while and dont try as hard it happens.  I will continue to pray for you while you are weak and weary.....sis
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1025640 tn?1251908316
Thank you everyone for the up beat words. I will not give up but will have to take a break. Emotional now would not be the rigth time 2 failed IVF and 3 failed AI also. Time to stop stressinf for awhile at least. I really want to thank you.
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oops I meant to say I am "now" married to an absolutely amazing man:)
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Oh...you have written what I am feeling right now:(  When I was younger I was married to a complete a^^ who cheated on me.  His parting words to me were: "I'm sorry I took the best reproductive years of your life."  He went on to have a son with the woman he had the office affair. Oh yeah, that was a knife though my gut.

Fast forward years of bad dating mistakes and healing...and I am not married to an absolutely amazing man.  I thank God everyday I am with him.  I also think, well, if I had to go through all of that earlier pain to get to where I am now, then it was all worth it.

My dh and I want children.  I've gotten pregnant 4 times with him - I'm pregnant now - but it looks like I am going to lose this one as well.  If they don't see anything in the sac tomorrow I'm doing a D&C.

I'm not nearly as young as you and so I don't have anymore time.  I am feeling EXACTLY how you are feeling right now:(

But you know what??  YOU are young and you still have a CHANCE!!! You have time to fake a break and to heal!
All the best to you!

((HUGS))
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864502 tn?1382640699
YOU ARE SPEAKING IT GIRL!!!....thanks I needed to hear/read that also;-) Like I said your Hubby has a "GREAT WOMEN" on his side.....BE BLESSED!!!!
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582963 tn?1483452520
Wait wait wait wait...........on the Lord.......okay Testimony Time........

While reading you story it sounded like ME all over again.........
I was that woman that wanted a baby so bad and I tried with an ex which was cheating on me and got another girl preggo while I wanted one so baddddd....yea it felt so bad to have tried so hard and this Bast**d go and make a baby with someone else (by mistake) but then God sent me a man with 5 kids which I wanted to be a mother so bad that I didnt mind being with him so I could have some type of a child.......but of course that man cheated on me and we split up and a year later I met my now husband and we both have NO kids and we have faith that one day.......when God is ready we will have children....... Girl Listen to me DO NOT GIVE THE DEVIL VICTORY........ YOU ARE BEING TESTED EVERYDAY AND THE LORD NEVER GIVES UP ON US..........you need to drop to your knees and  tell God what you want and cry to him and let him know how you feel.......ITS OKAY TO BE ANGRY WITH GOD...IN THE BIBLE IT TELLS YOU THERE ARE TIMES WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE "WHY" BUT DO UNDERSTAND THAT GOD WILL GIVE YOU WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AT ALL TIMES.........  Please Sister Do Not Give Up...........WEAK PEOPLE GIVE UP........AND YOU ARE NOT WEAK IF SO GOD WOULD NOT HAVE GIVING YOU THIS SITUATION........HE DOESNT GIVE US MORE THEN WE CAN HANDLE.......  I am in the same boat with you surgery after surgery prayer after prayer so I know what you feel like ....................Please Dont Let The Devil Win..............Its not worth it........Please Pass this test and I am certain that God will bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Sorry for using Caps but that is where I felt you needed to really hear me..........

Read my journals and Keep your faith.....................................................\

Remember how Sarah was bare for so long with Abraham and she told him to take thier maid and then she became preggo and Sarah was so mad.......so then after so ooooooooooooooooooooooooooo many years goes by and God said to Sarah that he didnt forget about her and that she would have a child at the old age and Sarah laughed at God like yea right......................and then She ended up having a baby.....

SO things may not come when you want them too but they are always on time!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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296340 tn?1336164001
Create a life is not your plan.. It's God plan... When HE thinks you are read to have a child, he will send a little angel to you... Not having a child doesn't mean you are less of a woman... things happen for a reason... don't be sad.. don't give up... don't be discourage...don't look at others and feeling sorry for yourself.... each individual is different... I believe each woman will have a chance to become a mother...  

I have a friend who married for 16 years and TTC... nothing happen until recently she got pregnant.. she is now 3 months... She keeps her faith to God and praying God.  

I know there is no words to help you feel better.. I been there and done that... I am so sorry you have to go through all this.. only thing keep you going is don't loose your hope... Living without hope is dead.. so keep hoping ....

You will be in my prayer....
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864502 tn?1382640699
I know how you feel....I feel like that 5 out of 7 days of the week;-( It really hits home when I am going places and see little girls with kid(s)....I always said  "Lord before I leave this earth...please let me have a baby"...But if all fails and I am 33 yrs old...I plan on adopting a baby or child;-) I will say NEVER give up ...If you want something really bad...YES...it will be a fight...Aint nothing going to be easy...Please believe me when I tell you...I have been thru the rain and the storm...BUT thru it ALL...."I MADE IT"...I want to try cry right know....So let me end this with....

Never give up, never give up!
Even if you lose your way
A great many times,
You must realise that your destination
Is sleeplessly expecting your arrival.

HAVE FAITH!!!!
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hi Yogi2300

dont feel bad i know the feeling its horrible im married 4 yrs now done 1 artificial insemination which failed and im now waiting for my results from ivf which was done last week...............have faith i do be strong , if i may ask whats the problem ?

i have endeometriosis?
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