Im so depressed today. My sister is pregnant with her second child and is unhappy about it

[ashlynn85]

I have been trying to have a baby for almost a year now, with no luck. My 17 sister is pregnant with her first child and now today my other 22 old sister is pregnant with her second chils what is wrong with me? I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant and i m abnormal.. I sometimes hate my self for it. Why cant i be like everyone else and have a baby just by laying beside my husband to be. I just feel so sad i wanna be happy for both my sisters but neither one of this pregnancy where planned and now they are both going to be mommies when is my chance gonna come around. Im sorry i just felt like i needed some one to talk to.

[nevaeh222]

I understand what you're going through. It completely sucks when people around you who don't want babies get them. I went through the same thing last year when my step niece who was 19 got pregnant. She was going to actually have an abortion too! But she decided to keep him when she saw the ultrasound..she got pregnant again 2 months after her son was born but had a miscarriage...wish it was that easy for me to get pregnant. Just keep your chin up..one of these days you'll be a mommy..hopefully sooner than later.

[candie429]

I think all of us can completely understand what you are going through.  When we hear about someone else who is pregnant, it's not that we would ever wish anything bad upon them and we are happy for them, but it is so hard to not feel sorry for yourself and sad about what you are missing out on.  I just had to go to a baby shower for my cousin who is only 20 and got pregnant by accident.  She's a good person and she's so happy about it, but I just couldn't help feeling that I would've never thought she'd be the first in the family to have a baby.  There are also 2 girls here at work who are pregnant and they look so miserable all the time.  I just want to say Hey, do you realize how lucky you are!  Enjoy every minute!  I can't wait for the day that we get to hold our own baby in our arms.  All we can do is have faith that our time will come and pray for strength to get through the tough times.  Take care and we're here if you need to talk.

[bree08]

That is definatly how I feel too!

[jen023]

I am there too - and am sorry you are feeling so down... In one year, I had to deal with my sister, my sil, my best friend, hubby's best friend, and a coworker who all got pregnant (only 2 of them planned)... I can't even begin to tell you how I felt (although obviously you are feeling the same way right now)... I just kept thinking, this can't all be coincidence - is God trying to punish me for something? Since then, they have all had their babies and I see my sister's baby all the time... so it's not as bad as I thought it would be since I get to spoil her so much, but the hurting and the jealous feelings never really did go away for me... hopefully you're time will come soon! Let me know if you ever need to talk! :)

[gokuangel]

i know exactly how u feel!! i feel that way all the time and its hard cus my sil she is 6yrs younger than me so when she was 19 and announced her 2nd pregnancy i was not really happy but i do love my niece she is so cute but they of course when found it it was another girl they were not happy they just assumed they would be able to get preggers and get what baby they wanted.
To Bree- Aint that bout right it irritates me too when people complain bout having kids my sisters friend once said i didnt know i was gonna get pregnant!! omg are u kidding me laying on ur bk and spreading ur legs usually means ur gonna get pregnant!! Oh and i hate it when people say oh u dont want this or ur so lucky u dont have kids!! oh that makes me so mad i am grateful to my time i have to grow up and get settled and to have fun but im more than ready for the next stage in my life.  i feel like im trapped in the life of a little kid and i cant figure out why  maybe its the kids thing and maybe its me but im ready to move forward.

[bree08]

I know how you feel. I feel this way all the time! My sister has 3 kids and my husbands brother and sister each have kids. I get really upset now when I have friends who complain about having kids. It is really hard to see others get pregnant w/ out even trying. Your day will come soon! Hopefully all of us will be moms soon!

[tina1111]

It is hard. My sister has 3 and my brother has 2. Neither of them had to try at all. I don't begrudge them one minute with their children though. I know several of the kids came at the wrong time and they weren't in a financial sitation to handle another child. I'm sure it can be overwhelming for them, too. I'm sure she isn't trying to be hurtful to you. It's hard to understand how she feels, when it's something you want so badly. Maybe being reminded of how hard it is for some to conceive, such as yourself, may remind her that it is truly a blessing and she will be able to handle it. There's a reason for everything, even though we may never know it.

I hope your wait isn't much longer :)

[dnikki0928]

I think all of us has felt that way. My sister-in-law is pregnant (seriously it took like 2 months) so when I got the news, sure I was happy....but also jealous, sad, even a little mad. Then in March the a BOMB was dropped on me - they are having twins yeah... naturally. That was a bad night. I broke down and cried to my DH and even though I am happy for them I can't be around too much of my family at the moment. All I hear from my mom is the twins this, the twins that and they aren't even born yet!

Ladies -- One of these days (SOON) we will ALL HAVE OUR BFP'S!!!!

[monkeyfish]

im really sorry you got the worst luck ever but if i was you i'd but a ovulation kit and when its positive have a sex marathon lol. seriously it works. i think well not to long ago i took a test and i had mad sex and now i think im pregnant. i had amiscarriage 2 months ago. it wasso sad.


good luck missy

[tea_berries]

it must be the worst feeling ever... :( sorry...all i can do is to cry and be sad with you... it does take time for us.  I do hope our luck comes soon.  I still cry when I hear somone in my family who got pregnant.  Cant help it, but you are not alone