Advice please!

[HOPEfulRN2b]

My husband and I got married a little over 2 years ago. Before we got married we knew that we both wanted children. But we decided to wait until I graduated nursing school. Once graduation wasls near I wanted to start trying but Hubs said to wait until I graduated as planned. After I graduated I asked him again and he said he wanted me to wait until I got a job so that we would be more financially stable. I got the job and have been working for close to a month now. I asked again and now he is wanting to wait longer. He is wanting to change careers now and go into law enforcement. But that means if he gets hired as a deputy that he will have to go to the police academy for 12 weeks. The reason I am so upset is because he keeps adding "goals" to overcome before we can get pregnant. Amd im afraid that if we wait till he gets out of the academy that he will just add something else to the list of goals. I have been off of birth control since February and he doesn't wear a condom so I told him to not be upset if we get pregnant. But I'm sure he will. Plus he thinks that I'm tricking him if we have sex around ovulation. How can I get him to realize that I want to have a baby so bad that its all I ever think about? I'm tired of being so upset and disagreeing on this.

[MammaG1]

In my experience, guys don't like to admit they are scared. They want to be strong for their family. So they just say they are not ready. Well at least that's how it was with my husband.

[ariellesmithe]

I think that he is probably scared and wants to ensure that everything is right before the baby comes.....but things will NEVER be perfect!  

You might want to talk to him about it one more time without arguing or fighting. You could just discuss it when you are both in a really good mood and take it from there.

Good luck!

[MammaG1]

My husband was the same way. He is scared that if we have a baby now, he won't be able to provide for our family. He has a stable job with good pay. He just wants to do the responsible thing. But I told him a baby is a blessing and no matter how long we wait, we will never be ready because there will always be something in the way. We are now just enjoying our sex life and if it happens, we are welcoming our baby with all the love we can give. I hope I am pregnant this month. :) stay strong. Don't mention it anymore and enjoy your sex life. Assure him that everything wil be okay and that you are ready. I hope he can understand!

[HOPEfulRN2b]

I've  asked him if he's afraid and all he says he that he's not ready.

[Canmu]

If you've already told him how you feel, and he's sticking to his guns, have you asked him why he's afraid to have the baby now? I don't know the full story, but it seems like he's afraid so he keeps postponing it.

[HOPEfulRN2b]

I understand that he wants to do more but I have accomplished every goal that I've tried for. I have explained how I feel but it does no good. He just gets upset and won't talk about it.I feel that I'm at a loss.

[tasha0918]

Maybe he just wants everything in order before u guys have a baby because once it happens it is really going to change ur life. All the focus will go on the baby and not the goals. Try to talk to him and explain ur feelings and see what happens