TTC

[Tate2010]

So, I don't normally do this... I have been TTC for over a year now and it is just getting to be so depressing. I try to stay positive but it gets harder and harder each month. Ever since I was a little girl all I wanted is to be a mother. This is so painful to go through. How do, or how did you guys cope with the pain each month when you found out you weren't pregnant? I have been to the doctor and she says that the next step is fertility specialists but that is so expensive. I don't have anything wrong with me as far as I know.. I am on metformin because the doctor thinks I may have PCOS, and she also said they might want to try Clomid if I am unsuccessful for another few months. I am so tired of people saying... you will get pregnant, or all in good time, or your still young... I know I am young but I have been married for two years to a wonderful man and we are now ready to start a family of our own. I am 21.

Thanks...

[usuk]

All I can say is get the tests done. Not sure about your insurance but some things are covered. You are young, but that is not a reason to not be have friends/family sweep your feelings under the rug. However it is a reason to (1) get tested because something is not working properly and (2) your eggs are still young so as soon as you can get to them, you will be fine.

Many people start with Clomid to regulate periods. Then move on to IUI (insemination) if you ovulate but sperm do not fertilize the egg. It is not as expensive as IVF.

Good luck.

[Mrs_Priss]

Metformin is for regulating insulin levels in your body--I would have my insulin tested before taking it to be sure you NEED it. A lot of women with PCOS have insulin resistance, which is why one of the characteristics of it is weight gain or inability to lose weight. Metformin is prescribed to regulate that. PCOS(polycystic ovary syndrome) is generally diagnosed with a hormone imbalance, or the presence of cysts on your ovaries, or both. If you have neither, I would be careful of moving forward with a PCOS diagnosis and maybe ask about further testing? I'm no doctor, but prescribing a medication because they "think" you might need it sounds like malpractice to me. An HSG is my next step if we are not pregnant this cycle. An HSG is where they fill your uterus up with dye to make sure the tubes are open and everything is clear of blockages. Gives a better picture than an ultrasound, too. Hope this helps! Good luck!

[Tate2010]

They said they think I am ovulating as I have my period with all of the symptoms... cramps, fatigue etc.

I have also used ovulation tests which say I am ovulating. My periods are just very irregular, sometimes I will go a few months with no period so they gave me pills to take for when my period doesn't come... to make it come.  My husband is supposed to go in and get himself checked out and he will I believe next week. He wants a baby so bad too and is so supportive of me. I just always start to feel like it might never happen for me... and what if it doesn't... We pray every night for God's will. We just want it so bad ya know? Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy and best of luck on your next!

Thank you so much for the encouragement I appreciate it!

Mrs_Priss...
How can they give you a definite diagnosis... my doctor did blood work and it came back normal. They did a regular ultrasound, and a vaginal one and they said everything looks fine... the only thing they said is that my uterus is shaped a little different but they also said that it shouldn't effect anything negatively. I haven't had an HSG as far as I know... would that be the next step? My doctor just says she thinks I have it so she has me taking metformin... Should I maybe get a second opinion?

Thank you for your help!

[Mrs_Priss]

I would get an actual diagnosis of PCOS before taking any medication for it, IMO. Have you had an ultrasound or HSG? CD 3 bloodwork?  Yes, it all gets expensive, but so do babies. I just started Clomid after tracking my cycles for two years and seeing an obvious pattern of anovulation, as well as having a transvaginal ultrasound to rule out any obvious pathology and hormone level tests to rule out any imbalances.

[Jroxy]

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[Jroxy]

This sounds alot like what I went through. But they know I have PCOS. I was told all the same things and tried for over a year. Are you ovulating? are you getting your period? Has your husband been checked for his sperm count? the problem could be with him. Or the combination of both of you having problems possibly. I did try the clomid for almost six months but no luck for me. I wasnt even getting my cycle before it. It works for alot of people though. there is also IUI you can try. Dont give up hope!! There is still IVF you can try if it comes down to it. Thats what I had to do after talking with a specialist and trying all the options for me. It worked on the first shot and we now have a 1 yr old baby boy. And are about to try for our next baby. Good luck and if you have any questions please ask