This morning I told my dh that we need to discuss this together and please stop telling me it's up to me. He told me that he feels like it's my body and I'm going through the physical part of it that I should choose, but I dont want that. I told him I want him to be a part of this disicion. So, hopefully we will talk tonight about it.
Good luck with all of this!!! yall are in my prayers!! We are here for ya! : )
The thing is he's very comfortable with donor embryos, but he knows how scared I am. I just know deep down in my heart that he wants me to do ivf, but he won't say it. He keeps on telling me to make the choice. My response is we have to sit down and discuss it.
You both have to be comfortable with donor embryos. I know that my dh wasn't willing to go that far. Like Tina said, you and dh should have a very serious and candid discussion.
Tina Thankyou
I wanted to wish you luck and hope you get that BFP very soon!!!!!
I am sorry you are having to make these decisions. They are not easy. That is for sure. It is a decision only you and dh can make. I, too was going to use donor eggs until I discussed it at length with my dh. It turned out he was fine with donor embryos. We will be transferring 4 embryos this coming cycle. You will make the right decision, whichever you choose :)
thankyou Helen, We were actually thinking more of the lines of donor embryos, since it cost less than donor eggs. Part of me wants to do donor because it will probably be less stressful on me. The only reason why I'm thinking ivf is because I think my dh wants me to do ivf, but he won't come out and say it. I can tell!!!
I am so sorry both of your tubes were removed. However, this also eliminates any chance of an ectopic pregnancy which is devastating, as you know.
Whether to pursue donor or try another cycle with your own eggs is up to you. It's a very personal choice and only you and dh can make it. With donor you will have more and higher quality eggs and will not have to go through retrieval. Probability of bfp is also much higher and probability of a m/c is lower. But, it's donor eggs...
We'll support you no matter what route you choose to pursue.