Well, I guess one way to look at it is....there is always the chance of 1 embryo splitting into 2 also, so if you were "meant" to have twins, it might just happen anyway. Also, I wanted to tell you that my first transfer with our donor embryos failed too, so don't get discouraged, it was our 2nd one that was successful.
If you would be overwhelmed with possibly three children make sure to discuss YOUR odds for multiples. There are other factors besides age that need to be considered.
I personally would love twins or even triplets if we were blessed but I do understand your concern.
Best of luck on whichever you decide to go with.
Thanks for sharing your experience with me. It is reassuring to know that your experience has been a great one and you would do it again.
Thanks so much!
Thank you for sharing your story with me and I am so sorry for all that you have gone through. It is really a personal choice and I am very torn on what to do. Our RE suggested 2 when we did our first round so I am assuming he will suggest the same this time. I like you, could not do selective reduction so that is not an option.
Thanks again, I so appreciate all you have to say.
Well, I am 45, and we ended up using donor embryos from 20 something year olds, and we now have g/b twins. We opted to transfer 2, for financial #1, the transfer costs add up. Also, I since we are older, I wanted them to have each other later in life, and even now, to entertain each other. But, also, our embryos were frozen in 2's. I can tell you if I had to do it again, I would still do 2. And I also know ladies on here who are over 40 who had one, and our going back for their second.
It is a personal choice, but I can honestly say, I don't think you would ever regret having twinsif it were to happen.
Honestly I think it's a personal choice and one I would make after talking and getting your RE's input. I have had numerous IVFs and the most I've had transferred were 4. When I knew they were all genetically normal( I elected to do PGD) I had 3 5 day embryo transferred and ended up with a chemical pregnancy when my RE told us we had a high likelihood of twins. I am in no way recommending this and I could never go thru it myself but there is the option of selective reduction. My RE had to make me aware of it for several reasons but I won't get into that. A younger woman's eggs does give you a better chance and less likely to have abnormalities like down syndrome but it is not guarantee that a pregnancy will result from each transfer. Good luck to you!