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439903 tn?1380137882

has anyone gone through this?

i was pregnant with twins this morning, NO SIGNS, NO SPOTTING, mild barely noticeable cramps that ive had since transfer on and off. then i was leaving to join my husband for lunch and i started getting sharp jetting painful cramps. well when we got to the restaurant i said im going to the bathroom, just to make sure im ok. i wasnt, i was bleeding really badly!! i flew to the drs and when i got there (hysterically crying) i passed a huge blood clot. they gave me an ultrasound and i lost one of my twins. im 6 weeks today and the baby i still have is perfect, on track, my dr and the tech thought they seen a heartbeat but didnt want to say it was for sure but they said that everything looks perfect, they expect me to bleed through the rest of the day with little clots, if i see anything big call them, but i should be fine. has anyone had this and ended up with one healthy baby? im keeping myself calm right now but in my mind im an absolute mess!! im SO SCARED!!!! my husband and i were both just sitting there crying, i was covered in blood, im just, i dont know, i want this so bad, i dont know what to do, im not in pain anymore!! i just hope to hear some success stories from situations like this to ease my mind!! i know the harsh truth that i may loose this one too, so please if you are planning on trying to give me the truth with 'your probably going to loose this one too' i really cant handle that right now!!

thank you!!
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Avatar universal
i'm so sorry, i am sending best wishes, crossing my fingers find a shooting star for your little one.
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413098 tn?1260727194
Im so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts and prayers!
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294043 tn?1354207946
I am so very sorry you went through this.  I have been bleeding for weeks and I know how scary that is.  I do know several ladies who wrote to me since I started bleeding and told me that they lost one of the twins but were able to have a healthy baby.  I know that ZevasMom and shishka went through that.  ZevasMom had a beautiful baby girl and shishka is due some time soon.  It is not uncommon to miscarry one twin. Try to stay strong for the baby that is still growing.
Many hugs,
Helen  
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495055 tn?1259700950
I am very sorry for your loss.  I have a good friend who went through exactly what you describe.  She now has a beautiful baby boy.  
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186627 tn?1257877774
I'm so very sorry.
I posted also on AGP.
(((HUGS)))
Miky
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Oh honey, I am so sorry.  To answer your question about losing a twin...yes it is common in IVF to lose one and the other remains and continues to grow just perfectly.  Try to relax and take it as easy as possible.
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458090 tn?1256321162
Amberlee.  I am so sorry this happened.  I also know of a few women that this happened to.  They are still currently pregnant with a singleton.  Be strong.. you can do this  :)
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342988 tn?1299782356
i believe on the 21 plus pregnancy forum one woman with triplets lost one and the other 2 are healthy and should be born within the next month or so.  I am so sorry for your loss.
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439903 tn?1380137882
thank you all for your support, it really makes me feel better!! i am so scared, as all of you, i want this so bad and cant imagine not going the next 7 and a half months without this miracle growing inside me!! i talk to them everyday, good morning, good night, hope your comfy in there. i just dont know what to do! the thought of loosing them crosses my mind EVERYDAY and every time i think about it, i sit and think of what would happen but now that it has, i didnt think it would be this hard. i am SO thankful that i still have one at least, there are so many that cant say that and i wish i could take the pain i know they feel away as much as i want this pain i feel to go away!! its so not fair and yet no one will ever understand why the ones that want and deserve this more then anything go through what they go through. i dont know why this has to be so hard for us. and my husbands tear covered face keeps playing over and over and that hurts even more, knowing that he was sitting there trying calm me down while trying to stay calm himself. im sorry for rambling, i needed to vent to people who understand. thank you all again its nice having people to support you when you dont have the strength to support yourself!!
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161938 tn?1212169149
my sister who did not have IVF went to her doc because she was bleeding for so long
they told her she was preggo but it had been twins and one was bleeding
I have a 14 year old nephew from that
good luck
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478429 tn?1265244387
Asking: I'm so sorry you have to go through this... it really just isn't fair. I just want you to know you will be in my thoughts and prayers especially during this time :)
Hugs and love :) Take it easy for a bit
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398459 tn?1262186144
Hi Amberlee,

Just got a chance to get on the computer today and read your news.  My heart is so saddended for you and your DH.

Try your hardest to rest and think positive thoughts for your baby.  I am really so sorry that you are going through this.

Be strong,

Krista
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374593 tn?1257879950
so sorry to hear that your going through this!!!! my heart aches for you!   but the good news is that i have heard of lots of women and know women who have lost one and the other was a full term perfect baby!  its very common!  I can only imagine how terrifying it must be though! and i agree, seeing my dh tear up is a picture my mind will never forget! I'm praying for you, dh and your little one! sending you super sticky baby dust! that you WILL be holding that little beautiful baby in 8 months! : ) I wish that for everyone that ttc could be as easy and painless as it is for sooo many people, but i guess we're all stronger for going through this battle! which we will win in the end! your in my thoughts and prayers! keep us updated!!
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187233 tn?1271022163
Hi Asking,

I am extremely sorry for what you are going through...all I can say is please do not give up.

I did not undergo IVF, but I have been through your situation myself. I was 6 1/2 weeks pregnant with twins when I started bleeding and passing clots. I went to the hospital and was told that i was having a miscarriage. They wanted to do a d'n'c at the time to help finish the miscarriage. I refused the d'n'c and went home--one call to my own ob got me into another hospital where they did an u/s and found that I was still pregnant with one baby. The rest of my pregnancy was uneventful---I have a wonderful son now--he's 11 years old :)  

So please do not give up hope, be strong and try to rest and relax as much as you can. My thoughts are with you and I am sending you tons of hugs and SSBD to help you along :)
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Avatar universal
I have not ben it what you are going through but i know that GOD is a healer HE said HE heals us once we ask HIm i will be praying for you that you will give birth to a healthy baby may the peacse of JESUS CHRIST be with you!!!
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398038 tn?1247857003
I am so sorry for what you are going through.  I can't give any advice or share any experiences since I've never been through this, but I just wanted to let you know that my heart goes out to you and your DH and I'll be sure to keep you in my prayers.  If the doctor saw the other baby and thinks everything looks good, then take comfort in that and have faith that everything will be OK.  Take care.
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414225 tn?1247455500
My sister, cousin, and gf at work all were pg with twins and lost one, 2 were early 1st trimester and one was second.  Tyler(24), Jared (20) and Alexis(2) are proof that they all carried to term....good luck, stay positive!!
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514585 tn?1328740013
i can't say that i know what you are going through cause i have not been in your shoes, although i have lost single babies in the past, i do know the pain of loss.  my heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts.  i hope that all goes well with the other baby and just take it as easy as possible. and you will be holding your baby in just a few months.  i know it seems like a eternity but it will go by quickly once it gets going, soon you will feel that little miracle moving around and using your insides as a jungle gym...lol

hugs and luv to you, your dh and that little bean
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195145 tn?1255636447
READ THIS!!!

First - know that you and little one are in my prayers :o)
Second - your little bean is going to be fine - I know from first hand experience... I had the same EXACT thing happen to me... AND DD is turning 2 next month!

We did IVF - we were pregnant with twins... short story - I started bleeding, went to ER - heavy clots - scared to death!  There was one little baby - HB and all... I was sooooo nervous - but in the end - I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy, baby girl!

If you need anything - message me - I have "been there, done that" and may be able to help with questions...

Love ya!
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443102 tn?1222125946
My thoughts and prayers are with you!  I am sure everything will be just fine with your little one...
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