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own egg or donor egg ?

Hi Ladies
I'm 42 years old. I failed 3 cycls  IVF( include ectopic, early misscariage).
My doctor recommend using donor egg...
Should I give up a baby with own egg ?
Sholud I decided to IVF with donor egg ?


How do you rediscover one's feelings ?
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You have to decide what is really important.  I understand you want a child as we all do.  For me. I couldn't go throu anymore heartbreak.  Although we did do donor egg.  This is still my husbands child 100% & feel it's mine too.  The donor donated a Cell.  It became an embryo with my husbands help/Fertalization.  We can also deduct the amount we paid under medical expenses & get some back.  If we did try IVF with my own eggs & spend $15,000 & not work, not sure would have been able to do ED.   I didnt want us to go into debt.  I feel we made the BEST DECISION for us.
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I also know how difficult it is, but you have to make a decision that you won´t regret in the future. I decided to do IVF with donor egg and I am very very happy. It was an emotional experience though, I had my ups and downs, but we have a healthy baby and that is the most important thing for me right now. And if you want some recommendation - try a clinic abroad, it is not so expensive and the are is the same as in the UK (if not better) , I went to Prague - Gynem clinic and was very satisfied. I think that part of the success is a good place you choose.
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Again, so sorry about your m/c.  I totally understand how difficult it is.
As far as donor eggs go, we stayed with our own clinic & picked from an inhouse group.  You can start there & then branch out.  Maybe they will recommend somewhere to go.
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I should start to search about IVF with Donor .... though I still recovering from misscariage..
How do you find a donor egg ?  your own clinic or agancy ?
I'm appreciate you give any advice.
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First of all, Congratulations !!! It is great news!!

Thank you for advice .
We used all three cycles for insurance covereage at this time.
So maybe it is time to decided...
Having a baby, raising a child is important , right ??

Thank you again.
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I am now 39 at the time of doing IVF I was 37/38 & had insurance covereage for 4 cycles.  We used all four cycles & never were successful.  It came to the point for us to pay.  We asked do we want to try again & pay $15,000 & may not work since the last 4 didn't or do the donor egg route with 75% guarentee of success??  We went the DE route & and now pregnant with twin boys due this month.  I had no known medical conditions & was transfering great looking 8 cell embryos.  I never rec'd a reason as to why things didnt work.

It's a hard decision but you have to think about whats best for you & husband.
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