the "I am annoyed by this" thread

[lost_kitty]

I know this doesn't really belong in here, but I feel like I have to get this off my chest.

I'm a bit annoyed by TTC, why you ask? Well, there is 1st the fact that MEN can produce a child at any time, any day, but we WOMEN can only conceive 2 days a month, 2 DAYS, that are 28 days in a year, the rest of the time is bleeding, hoping, crossing fingers and the worst thing EVER, waiting.

Something else that annoys me a bit are my friends or the people closest around me who conceive, and conceive, and conceive, and GET WHAT THEY WANT, while everyone else is trying, trying and losing their hope.

And PLEASE, what is with all the charting? BBT, TTC, CM, HPT, OPK - people, this is TOO MUCH, when did conceive a miracle of life become work? Oh, not to forget the DH, BF, Baby Daddy - or whatever you wanna call him, it's like they don't seem to understand sometimes how important it is to some, or ALL of us to receive such a gift.

One more - for those of you out there who have DH, BF and whoever, with already at least one other face to see themselves in, it's like my BF doesn't understand with his two sons that I kinda sometimes feel left out.

It's really good to get it out, anyone feels the same? I mean come on, let it out, grab a tissue. :)

[nickyc561]

mmmm, yep. i love that responce kitty. your hubby is really quite a sweetie for saying that xxx

i am late.....

[homiey]

wow. . .as I read your venting. . .I started to feel better myself as if I was the one who vented because I know what you mean.  Well, maybe not exactly because I don't have a BF who has 2 sons. . .so I can't imagine being the other woman in their lives as well.  But it does annoy me of all this pregnancy talk and how everyone around me is pregnant.  And when I complained to my husband he said something that made me feel better. . .I said to him,  " it feels like everyone around me is pregnant.  I see preg. pple here and there and it is like this outside force, god if you will, is laughing at me saying hahaha everyone else is getting what you want but not you."  My husband then said, "Well, look at it this way. . .we are seeing an abundant array of preg. woman now, especially now that it is spring, and every time you see a preg. woman, just think of it as a sign or foreshadowing of what will happen to you very soon."  I liked that response.  
Try not to worry.  The advice everyone gives to me is to not think about ovulation time. . .just have sex and enjoy it.  Have sex, work on your relationship, enjoy each other whether it is that time or not and sooner or later, you will get pregnant.  
sigh.  My doctor, when I went to her with ovulation questions and period cycle questions said to me, have sex everyday and you are bound to get pregnant.  I havent been TTC that long so I guess this is sound advice for me for now.  And my sex life has certainly been on an uphill slope. . .but we havent been having sex everyday. . .but more often at least and I don't think about when I am ovulating anymore. . .well, that is not entirely true. . ..but I don't chart it etc. . .

[mamom15]

Thankyou for bringing up this post -

Yes, everyone thinks that I am a monster, a child hater, because I am jealous.  I am jealous because I cannot concieve , I have to shoot myself up with drugs so that my body can create some eggs while every other woman can get pregnant with ease.  Yesterday I saw this new show - 16 and pregnant, another slap in my face.  What a high school teenager can do with out effort, I cannot do even with Medical help.  I hate Chlomid, I hate shots and I hate people who say it is a matter of time and it will soon be my time.  when will it be my time ?  I am tired of waiting, I am tired of hot flashes and sleepless nights, I am tired of bloating and getting shots every evening.  I am tired of not being able to enjoy an evening out with friends for a late dinner.  I ahve to rush home to take shots by acertain time.  Why can I not be like that 16 year old who did not want to have a child but managed to get pregnant.  I am MAD about Casey Anthony and that 38 year old woman in Mass. who left her new born baby ina motel with its umbilical cord attached.  Why is it easy for them when they don't even want a child ?


Thanks for letting me vent.  BOY... that felt good

[nickyc561]

sorry for the typo's my DH is distracting me by moaning as i am on line writing this. he doesnt think i should have any support i suppose!

[nickyc561]

i too am a monster! i used to be a nice person. compassionate and used to happy go lucky. now i get feedback from  work mates that i am a misserable old cow! i am!
i am constantly complaining and moaning and horrible..

all i want is a bloody baby. is it too much to ask? why is it that woman who dont care about thier babies get pregnant so easily, have abortions and the like. its a total slap in my face.. i want to scream at them and say "you ******* *****.
dont you know how lucky you are". i wander what i have done in my life to derserve such a **** thing to happen to me. obviously i cant say that to these woman as it would be a sackable offence. but its how i feel.

i hate the staff at work who are pregnant and just feel like they are rubbing salt into the large wounds.

pain..... it never ends.

Nicky

[tappy1984]

Thank you for bringing this out!!! It is just what I needed tonight. My DH works nights, so we have to BD before he leaves for work, and tonight it didn't work, so I was ready to throw the towel in and give up. We have been trying for two years in August, and I am TIRED!!! I am a foster mama, so to top it off I get attached to these babies, then have to give them back to parents that don't give a s*** about them, it tears me up! I am tired of working so hard at something that should be so easy. I am tired of hearing supportive comments. I am tired of being a monster, when I used to be so nice. I am tired of stupid people getting what I want. I am tired of trying to figuer out what I did wrong in my life that God would punish me like this. I am tired of knowing that things will work out one way or another, but not be able to tell my heart that. I am TIRED of it all!!!
With that being said, back to temping and vitamins in the morning, and hopefully DH can make a deposit when he gets home.
Best of luck to us all!!! And thank you again for this thread, I feel so much better and not so much like a monster who needs to be locked up!!!!