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the end?

I told hey husband today that I'm done trying for a baby I can't handle the stress anymore... he got so upset. After over 3 years of tears I feel so lost, at first I wasn't real sure if he wanted a baby as much as i did today when he got so upset it showed me he really does, but I don't think I can do this any more. What do I do??
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I know that it's extremely hard. I understand the pain. Have you been to a fertility specialist?
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I don't know your faith, but I'm constantly telling myself that The Lord has a plan. It gets very hard sometimes, but I continue to have faith and believe that our blessing is coming. Don't give up now. I recently had some mixed emotions about this process, but The Lord hasn't said no; just waiting on our time... It's coming, someday soon! :)
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We have been to fertility specialist that cant find any problems.. I'm a Christian, and I keep trying to tell my self the same thing but I'm so tired of crying, of feeling like I'm less than a woman, of seeing all of these people who really don't deserve their children keep poppin out babies :( I'm so lost I don't know what to do anymore. I did believe my time would come now I just think that I'm not mebt to have a baby, to have a family with my husband. :'(
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Maybe you girls were put on this. Earth to fill a different need. Maybe some helpless child. Is waiting out there to be adopted and for you to be his mom. Just a thought..
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I understand. I have had my days of crying and being frustrated. I know that The Lord has not said no to me; maybe not yet, but not no. I will continue to have faith and press forward the best I can. I believe that I will have the opportunity to have a baby of my own. #KeepingTheFAITH

Has your fertility specialist tried any medications or anything?
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@antashia43 I know that sometimes the answer is not what we want; and that can be difficult. However, I don't believe that The Lord has said no. I'm continuing to believe that I will be able to have a child of my own. #FAITH
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It breaks my heart to hear stories like yours .. I too was in the same predicament .. my husband and I had been trying to conceive for 3 yrs off and on (becuase I too got tired of the stress and heartache of not getting pregnant) until I decided to try natural remedies of making myself ovulate to try to conceive on my own ..  I have very irregular periods and had been on Clomid for 3 cycles with no success then we found out that my husband had a slim to none chance of getting me preg but I still didn't give up hope I decided to try the natural route and came across this herbal tea called FertiliTea .. I started it in April got my pd in May (pd before that hadn't been since Dec) and got my positive preg test by June .. it worked for me .. please look it up .. everyone's body's and situations are different but Ull never know unless you try .. I pray that your day will come .. dnt give up hope just pray on it and when its your time it will just happen .. trust me ;-)
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My husband is so upset with me that he won't have sex with me at all.... I'm so confused as to why me not wanting to try anymore makes him not want anything todo with me :(
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5837857 tn?1411577085
I'm sorry to hear about your story.  There is always hope....all things are possible.  You could possibly see a different specialist and/or discuss other options.

Good luck! :)
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I'm sorry you are going through this.  Infertility is so hard to deal with and it is really rough on relationships.  Your DH likely feels disconnected from you and like you dropped a bomb on him.    Maybe just take a break from it all for now, and when you are recharged, then start again.  Try talking to your DH to help him understand your point of view and hopefully the anger he has will subside.  Taking breaks is mentally necessary throughout this process of TTC.  Can I ask what testing you have had done?  Has your DH had testing done too?

Hang in there and I hope your DH comes around for you again.  
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