two misscarriages giving up trying now

[budess]

think i am going to give up trying, obviously not ment to be.
its really sad :(starting acupuncutre to sort out my monthly cycles hope this takes the pain away.
wish i could just stay pregnant.
wish each month wasnt so painful and i wasnt so moody.
also wishing this cyst would go so i dont get pains stabbing in my ovaries

[Lemenna]

I have had one mc out of 4 pregnancies so far and know the pain of it all.  I was in my 9th week when a routine ultrasound showed us a non-living baby.  I was told that if I waited for nature that it would be another 1-4 weeks since my hcg was at 47,000.  I ended up doing a d&c four days before our wedding.  It was the worst thing that I have ever experienced.  Especially since this was my husband's first pregnancy.  My other two were from a previous marriage.  We just found out a little over a week ago that I am pregnant again, but feeling very hopeful this time and being monitored very closely.  Anyhow, I learned last night that when my grandma was trying to get pregnant that she had 7 miscarriages before actually falling pregnant with my aunt.  I was shocked to hear of this.  But she has shown me with her history that good things can happen to you eventually and am very happy that she kept trying or my aunt, mom and the rest of the generations below her would not be here.  I know it is painful, but if you truelly want that baby push through it all and I know you will be very blessed and know that each one of us is here with you through it all.  God bless and good luck in the future!

[magda_s]

Brilliant... You sound much more positive.  So glad to hear it.
And hey, nothing wrong with feeling a little sorry for yourself.  Nothing wrong with it at all.  

[budess]

was feeling a little sorry for my self the otheer day..
i am going to start acupuncutre on monday so fingers crossed that sorts out my cycles and when i have 2 cycles at 28days  in a row i will try again..
i have been reading my zita west book which is very helpful and explains different options.
so watch this space after xmas

[39andcounting]

So sad to hear the desperation in your voice. I hope things work out for you in one way or  another. I wish you happiness.

[magda_s]

I don't know if this is going to help but I hope it will.  And again, I'm SO not trying to trivialise what you've gone through... it's horrible and painful and unfair.  However, for what it's worth, it is so not uncommon.  I was saying somewhere else on this forum just yesterday... I read somewhere a long time ago that the average woman has, on average, 10 miscarriages in her lifetime... without even knowing!  You obviously were well aware and I'm no doctor but it could well be that these were perfectly "normal" miscarriages.
I miscarried once many years ago... was deeply upset but not totally devastated because it was an accident and I really wasn't ready... however, that's neither here nor there... basically, the doc I saw at emergency tried to make me feel better by saying "This is just nature's way of keeping the good and getting rid of the bad."  THAT was awful!  All I could think was "You're telling me that my baby was 'defective'" ????
Sadly, much as I didn't want to hear it, it's true.  In keeping with what I was saying before, many women get pregnant many times without even realising and lose the baby never having known it was there and it happens because the embryo simply isn't "healthy" or "strong" for whatever reason.
Like I said before.... allow yourself to be upset.  Even wallow in self pity for a while.  It can be surprisingly good for you!  Just know when to stop and pick yourself back up and carry on.
Whether "carrying on" for you means trying again or not, only you can say.  But I really don't think you should feel that there's no point in trying again.
Oh... and the cyst isn't a big deal, to the best of my knowledge.  I had one when I was about 18.  I think it really is just something that happens sometimes.

[budess]

well basically got my periods what are very painful,
they come 22-26 each month..
very heavy to start with.
am always ratty and horried .
had a misscarriage in june at nearly 10weeks was a blighted ovum was treated very badly by the hosp.
since suffered anxitey and depression..
which im recovering from
also had another misscarriage the other week at 4.5 weeks..
the chinese dr i have seen for acupuncutre told me to stop trying for atleast 6months give my body chance to recover and become stronger thru acupuncutre..
so in patient want it now..
dreading 31st of dec as baby was due then.
had a scan a few weeks ago got a cyst on my right ovary what casues alot of pain..
just wanna be normal and not have all these problems and get pregnant and keep it. its the only thing i want so bad..
got a gyno appointment in jan aswell so we will see what the outcome of that is...

[magda_s]

I'm sorry... I haven't been around very long so don't know what I might have missed in terms of your story but two m/c's isn't so bad in the big scheme of things.  I don't mean to sound callouse.  I'm sure they have been devastating.  I just found out last night that my first attempt was a failure and my Dr. certainly didn't make me feel any better when he assured me that I was indeed pregnant but that it "stopped"!
Only you can decide when it's time to stop trying but give yourself a chance to grieve and then have a think about it.