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What do you do when you get depressed?

For the past couple of months I've been feeling progressively worse... and i'm just getting no relief at all... from anything...

I am feeling seriously depressed by all of this, I have no life left... i cant do any of the things I used to enjoy... I ran out of time off at work, and I can't loose my job because my wife is not working... so I have to go... but it's killing me... I have litterally no life left... I'm about as badly depressed as I have been in a long time... I dont even want to mention some of the things i have contemplated... I feel like i've lost my whole future... all my goals... everything... taken away... i dont even have any kind of sex life left...

I don't want to move... don't want to eat... don't want to do anything... I've lost over 20 pounds in the last couple of weeks alone... I have tried everything and I just can't dig myself out of this hole... but then I cant get rid of the cause...

I need any kind of advice... what do others do to cope?

I'm on Cymbalta... its supposed to be an anti-depressant... but still....i'm getting to the end of my sanity here... i'm not sure i'd have lasted even this long if it were not for the feeling that my wife needs me.
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757597 tn?1315801812
I do agree with everyone . I am on cymbalta and it helps me. I still have days that are hard we all do. I try to watch or do something that gives me pure joy. It takes your mind off the pain. I even make a phone call or 2 to hear someone else's problems. I think by helping someone you can feel some sense of purpose again. It is true life will change but I think we all have to change with it. I do alot more reading. Yes I do miss working because I enjoy people. I missed doing crafts at first. Now I do a little crafts not for sale but just for me. Anyway don't give up God is not through with you yet!!!! and Yes I'm glad to be apart of this forum  where people understand what you go through and share in it. Take Care and Be Blessed
Hugs!!
LadyGeeGee
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329994 tn?1301663248
Everyone has given you great advice. This forum is the best because you find that on here, they understand and can offer great tips and how to cope. I have found it to be such a blessing. It is hard to get this kind of support from outside (friends/family).  I find that when I get really depressed, I just cry it out. I have found that I have to do that sometimes, I just have to accept it and get upset about how my life has changed and then I can move on again. It just comes and goes for me. I do take zyrtec (an antihistamine) at night and that not only helps me with my allergies but also sleeping and then that good nights sleep helps me deal with the CFS.  I will keep you in my prayers as I do everyone on here. Let us know how you are doing!
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434278 tn?1324706225
We all can sympathize with what you are going through.  

My doctor sent me to physical therapy, which helped along with everything else we were trying.  Honestly, the Lyrica didn't help.  But I take several suppliments that do...5HTP for sleep and depression, Melatonin for sleep.  Magnesium would really be benificial for muscle cramps and to help you relax.  

Take the exercise slow and build up.  I have found that if I exercise too much, it causes a flare of symptoms.  

Praying for you to get well enough to go back to work.  God can help you, trust in Him.
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I'm sorry you are going through this and glad to hear you feel somewhat better.

There is a process to discovering we have a chronic illness (or chronic pain).  It's much like the loss of a loved one...we lose something important to us...our life as we knew it.  First there is denial, then anger, bargaining and acceptance.  These are the stages of grief.  There is not set time frame for these to occur...each must go through them in their own time.

Getting to the stage of acceptance is very difficult.  Sometimes we can become stuck in a stage and need a little help from others.  It's ok to be angry; it's ok to cry.  Please know you aren't alone and most here have had those same feelings and we do care.

I pray you continue to move forward and things will be brighter in the days to come.
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365714 tn?1292199108
Correction, I am taking a med. It is Hydroxyz and it's an antihistimine that's supposed to make me drowsy at night. Sometimes it works and sometimes not.  It seems to bring out more day-time fatigue if I take two tablets rather than one at night.
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365714 tn?1292199108
I'm functining at only a part of what I had when I was in college.  It was a blow, but the depresison comes and goes.  Sometimes I can find something funny and briefly distract myself from my depression.  Sometimes I get stuck in a mental loop and it takes something to distract me from that loop.  One method I use is googling up stuff I'm curious about.  If I'm reading something or busy writing out my thoughts it helps.  The inability to focus is a pain though...  That seems to be the major source of boredom to me. If I get too focused then I may feel fatigued and want to try something else.

I agree the med you're on may not be helping.  Right now I'm coasting without, but when I was on different meds I had different reactions.  Welbutrin seemed to be the one I was the most stable on until it started to fail out on me.  Remron gave me the modivation to do a lot with my creativity and overall didn't have the depression so bad, but it made me gain about 10-15 lbs in a few months of use.

Celexia was the worst... It caused severe mood swings. I was either crying about everything or I was very paranoid.
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Thanks for the advice...  I talked it over with the doc... and I'm on some different medications... including some things to make me sleep better... its not perfect... but its bringing things back under my tollerance threshhold.

I had to take a week or so out... to be "off grid" and away from things... get things out of my system...have a good cry without feeling guilty that i was hurting others... but i'm mentally more stable now...

Still have to figure out whats happening long term... but.... for now i'm at least back on an even keel... I have to just find a way to be happier... feel like i have a life..

Thanks everyone.
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606078 tn?1247264553
Hi there;
   Reading your story was like reading about myself when I was first diagnosed with fibro and cfs, now I still have bad days, but I have good days too. Thank God I don't work outside the home anymore, I would probably be forced to retire, and I do miss it.
My heart cries for you because I do understand. What other medications are you taking? Contact your doctor, tell him everythingyou have said here and if they know anything at all about this disease they will get you more help.

   Before I started taking Zoloft, I was a mess. I cried about everything, I couldn't bring myself to get out of bed, I absolutely HATED life!! I started having thoughts that scared me and that's when I knew I couldn't live with whatever was going on inside of me. I went to my internist and he started running tests.

   Tell your doctor that the Cymbalta is not working and be honest with him/her about how you feel. If this doctor can't help you, find one who can. Don't give up, keep fighting for what you want.Take this disease my the *** and start fighting it. I fight it every day, and most days I come out the winner, but I have to be honest and say that some days the disease wins.

   Any time you need to talk, or to vent or to scream or cry, you've come to the right place. Leave me a message and I'll answer in promptly. Every one on this forum do understand what you're going through, we're hear and we offer shoulders to those in need. Take care.

gentle hugs
Angel
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