It is impossible to answer. You could have all 3 had a viral bug, and some of your group didn't get it, or their immune systems were able to fight it off without any symptoms. Same story with the possibility of food - some of your group members may have been able to fight off the bacterial infection without symptoms. My husband and I have twice eaten the same food, then he got sick a few hours later, and I didn't. Turned out some other customers at the same restaurant (in both instances) got sick, and it was determined to be the lettuce.